Anyone else lost friends for supporting JK Rowling?

[teabaseddiet]

I've been GC for 2-3 years now but have been selective about what I've put on Facebook.

I posted JK Rowling's explanation of her tweets & have since had a number of my friends disagreeing with me directly, posting statements about being surrounded by idiots, or unfriending me directly.

These are people I've known, in person, for years. If I'm honest, I'm disappointed that they didn't want to at least talk about it, or be prepared to accept we have different views on this.

I keep reading about lots of people whose friends are becoming GC after JKR stood up for us all, and I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself!

Is it just me?

I know a few friends that , if we got into it, I'd fall out with.
I feel like a coward for avoiding this conversation in real life as much as I can.

@teabaseddiet

Is it just me?

From what I've read on other threads, no and I doubt it would be although it would be good if it was.

I have had some very supportive PMS from acquaintances! Their workplaces are too woke to comment overtly. So while I may have lost some I have gained some too.

I talked to one of my best friends about this recently, we grew up together. She was very angry, called me a transphobe, and has now removed me from all her social media. I’m sorry this happened to you OP but I feel a little better knowing I’m not alone in experiencing this. I’m feeling so disheartened and worn down by all this

my dds are teens. Our whoel house blew up in a veyr painful row over the weekend about JK Rowling.

I am GC they are both massive trans fans and one is non binary
Our family is broken by this whoel issue.

I am broken.

Where did this all come from

I'm not open on social media because I'm an academic at Woke University and between colleagues and students I'd lose my job. But my SIL has stopped talking to me and I'm avoiding my brother because I don't want to deal with the spectacular argument that will ensue.

I think I might have lost one friend today for reposting something about the M2F MMA fighter who gloated about fracturing the skull of a female opponent who was, apparently a TERF.

I have a friend within a social group who messaged the group calling JKR a TERF. Me and one of the other group took her to task over it but were still rather careful about exactly how we phrased what.

I haven’t yet posted anything to my personal Facebook as I know I’d lose this one particular friend, but I have been commenting on other people’s now which i feel like is a step outward. As a result of that, I’ve had PMs from other women who agree but don’t want to say so yet.

I find it so incredibly sad that men have decided what constitutes a woman, come up with a term for it, and now that women disagree we get accused of hate crimes etc etc. It really is fucked.

I've had a couple of people unfollow me on FB but frankly I'm beyond caring.

My tolerance for people objecting to JKR's well considered essay is zero and anyone whose posted anything vile about her I've blocked.

I've got a feeling that in a few years a lot of people who supported the TRA agenda are going to be spending a lot of time cleaning up their social media.

I have hordes of FB friends who would either argue in a very ugly way, or unfriend me, if I was openly GC. So I'm not.

The only place I talk about it is on private GC groups or private friends timelines who are GC. I always look at the privacy setting before I post anything GC. I don't even "like" non-private posts, though I may have slipped up on occasion.

I have about five rabidly pro-TRA friends I've known for over a decade from another forum, and whom I don't want to lose. So I've set my settings to block them from seeing anything I've written, as a precaution. But I can still see their posts. I do like to know where they're at! I suppose it's a bit like spying, but I know for a fact that they would not only attack me furiously if they knew my thoughts, they'd spread the word to other friends that I was a horrible mean TERF and to beware of me.

It's so sad. My reputation on that other forum was rather as a mild-mannered lady who never even swore and never got embroiled in quarrels or spats, of which there were plenty.

I'm always on the lookout for hints that this friend or the other might be GC, like when one of them posted #dontbuythesun. Surely that could only mean one thing at a time like this! ;)

my dds are teens. Our whoel house blew up in a veyr painful row over the weekend about JK Rowling.

That's awful, I'm so sorry.
Luckily my whole family is GC and the only woke person I know irl is my son-in-law's sister. I have a good relationship with her and we never discuss it. She did bring up BLM the other day and that's the only controversial thing we've ever discussed!
I like to get on with people. I can't stand conflict with friends, it makes me feel physically sick. But there might come a day when I will get over it and speak out. It all depends how this develops.

I'm part of a group of friends who met on this site years ago.

One has left our group chat because we're transphobic for agreeing with JKR.

I've binned a younger friend off Facebook for moaning about the lack of changes to the GRA.

I unfriended someone who was angrily pro trans. He's suffered with mental health issues for years and I'd always been supportive, we were housemates at one time, but having illogical anger turned on me was pointless and disturbing. Another friend I have in London gave a look when I mentioned something. I'd like to have a proper talk to her about it to see what her thoughts are. Its so hard when your general political standpoint has always been left, because it was the kind place, the sensible without being selfish place and you now find that that proclivity for kindness has in some cases proven stronger than common sense. So your friends think youve stopped being kind and you think they are blinded by the desire to be.

You're obviously not very good friends at all if you disagree in fundamentals such as this.

Whilst I dont agree with your position it seems a bit sad to be hiding in the closet shall we say with your views

I'd you're going to lose friends over it, then so be it. I'm sure you'll find more like minded people

Have to say, these are the only two though. In the main, friends, family and colleagues have their heads screwed on.

Nothing on social media because I don’t post anything but I’ve had some very heated debates with some friends. It has really made me view them in a different light; they will shout about everyone else’s rights and causes except that of women. It’s enraged me in a way only brexit, and sending your child back to school during corona have done.

Oh, probably. I'm not going to go checking to see. I would be very surprised if it hadn't lost me a few friends, but frankly, the people that are angry with abused women for 'weaponising their trauma' can fuck off, anyway.

I am really having to bite my tongue on Facebook as I have a trans relative who is bleating about extermination. We are both in our 50s so it's not a young woke person who is likely to change their mind. I think it would be divisive to argue; I am close with their close family members and want to keep them in my life. It's not as easy as just dropping them and finding more like-minded people.

"You're obviously not very good friends at all if you disagree in fundamentals such as this. "

Yeah it does feel like this. I can't imagine falling out with people on the basis of a fb post, without conversation. I remember coming to the realisation in my 20s (probably quite late!) that it's possible to disagree with people but still be friends. But these people clearly don't believe that. Huge shame & makes me feel quite lonely.

Sorry to the rest of you going through similar things

No but it is bringing a lot of women onto the barricades for the first time. Many women I know who had never expressed an opinion before are angry as hell at the abuse she's received for saying what we all know to be true. They are finally getting it.

I’ve seriously offended DD2 by supporting JK Rowling. She’s a Bristol university student and horrendously woke.

I've been unfollowed on Twitter by a couple of ex-colleagues after I supported JKR. They're both people I've always liked and respected.

One of them is a woke 20-something but the other is in her 50s and a medical professional. So that was an unpleasant surprise.

Yes, my best friend. I wrote about it on the other thread. I feel terrible about it.

My very woke cousins have deleted me, their mother told my mother she agrees with me.

Looking forward to a family wedding next year.