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Think divorce is inevitable - opinions please

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WorriedWoking · 13/04/2020 15:16

Like everyone else I am currently locked down and my partner's anger (he has a diagnosis of paranoid personality disorder) is becoming more and more worrying. He is a Jekyll and Hyde type who can appear calm and not exactly happy, because he is never by his own admission happy, before exploding with rage at something he perceives me to have done. I have not usually done anything or, if I have, I've not done it knowingly.

He is currently under a psychiatrist but I have found out that he is binge watching (him, not the psychiatrist as far as I know!!) MGTOW/MRA/Red Pill videos which degrade women including single mothers, 'old women' in their 30s, 40s and 50s, 'entitled women', 'gold diggers' and any other offensive and abusive trope you can think of.

He is claiming that the world is run by women and that men like him who are completely innocent are their victims. I am obviously included in this peculiar and objectively untrue world he's currently inhabiting and he has provided 'stats' to 'prove' to me that women are the violent sex.

I think he's completely lost the plot but he's still on his medication as far as I am aware -I don't monitor it. I have to confess to taking a sneaky look at his phone when he left it on the table and I can see that he is looking at dating sites and on RightMove for flats to buy in the city in which he works.

So, I guess I'm just here for tea and sympathy and reassurance that lockdown will be over at some point so that I can file for divorce. Thanks for reading :)

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Gibbonsgibbonsgibbons · 14/04/2020 13:40

Oh I am so so happy to read your update FlowersFlowersFlowers

This is not the last chapter, you may be in a bad chapter but it’s just one chapter not the whole book!

stumbledin · 14/04/2020 13:45

Hope all goes well and that you can leave (with your daughter) and find a safer happier way to lead your life. Smile

WorriedWoking · 14/04/2020 13:50

Thank you IONA and Gibbons :) It seems so weird (but wonderful!!!) that people I don't even know are 'on my side'. I am only early 60s, yes, so I shouldn't be thinking like that. Sorry. I think stress and lack of sleep have affected my thinking. I'm normally quite upbeat and cheery and the one who makes people laugh, albeit at me rather than with me as I specialise in pratfalls and other daft things. Actually my daughter has just asked if there's a reason I am wearing my top inside out. Ooops Blush

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WorriedWoking · 14/04/2020 13:53

Thank you stumbledin :)

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I0NA · 14/04/2020 14:49

I didn’t mean to give you into trouble for feeling you were old ! You are allowed to feel how you feel. As I say to my kids - Feelings aren’t right or wrong, they just are.

More that it’s a sign ( to me anyway ) that you are stressed and unhappy - that really takes it toll on your physical and mental health and makes you feel old before your time.

Especially when you feel stuck in a bad situation, as many of us do on lockdown. Im glad you are beginning to see a safe way out.

Once you are out, I’d encourage you to get legal advice about the implications of a separation / divorce . I suspect it’s complicated if your Dd and her partner own part of your house. What ever you decide, you will know the facts and can make an informed decision.

TheProdigalKittensReturn · 14/04/2020 16:43

So glad to see your updates, OP. Please do keep us posted and let us know if there's anything we can do to help.

quixote9 · 16/04/2020 10:10

I don't think I'm going to be able to sleep until I know you're safe out of there!

Honestly, do not wait for the worst. The way to avoid the worst is not to be there when it happens!

All the best to you Flowers and may the wind be at your back.

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