More police victim blaming - advice on how to not get raped

[Cwenthryth]

Belfast police at it this time:

thetab.com/uk/belfast/2020/02/21/police-in-belfast-handing-out-flyers-recommending-drinking-less-to-avoid-being-raped-16265

Created and designed by the Police Service of Northern Ireland, the flyer reads: "Alcohol is the number one rape drug. How much have you taken already?"

Following this the PSNI have provided a 'S.M.A.R.T' acronym to consider in regard to rape:

Say NO to any sex you don't want.
Make yourself clearly understood.
Alcohol affects your judgement so watch what you drink.
Rape stays with you for life.
Take care of each other and don't go off with someone you've just met.

That was the problem wims, we weren’t saying no and making ourselves clearly understood! Drunken hussies going off with people they’ve just met! They were asking for their lifelong trauma.

I think the above applies to many other areas of life too - e.g. you see a really good deal online but have doubts about the seller. You're not the one at fault but caution may still be a good idea.

Make yourself clearly understood.

Well, obvs whilst fighting off your attacker/s you should stand with your feet firmly planted on the ground, grab a conveniently placed loudhailer and yell "Noooooo" into it....

even if it means accepting the reality that I can't always do the things I want to

1. Men don't face this to the extent that we do. You are endorsing a very structural sexism here: that women as a class should not do things that men as a class do with impunity, which limits women's opportunities as a class.
2. Just how much are you prepared to miss out on in order to avoid rape? A night out? A 5k evening run? A job? Husband and children?

50% of rapes are perpetrated by a current or former partner. My rape was at the hands of my then-bf. I was also sober and asleep. To make sure it's someone else next time prevent recurrence, I won't date nor marry. I have given up romance and marriage to avoid another rape. Should women have to give that up? How much should women have to give up? (Now waiting for the "hysterical man-hating feminazi" criticisms that usually follow when I outline my evidence-based plan to reduce my chance of a second rape by 50%, because heaven forbid that a woman make herself sexually unavailable to men.)

[paraphrasing the nonsense about alcohol]

2/3 of rape victims are sober at the time of the rape. I was eight and sober when sexually-assaulted. I was sober when raped.

100% of rapes are caused by a rapist. 100% of rapes are because a rapist chose to rape.