Pronouns in my email signature

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I've been asked to state my personal pronouns in my work email signature. Grateful for any advice on how to deal with this? It's being presented as optional but I feel it's discriminatory as it's putting me under pressure to reveal my personal views on subjects which up to now I have not shared in the workplace. Thanks all.

So someone with a medical diagnosis (whereby lying would actually cause them discomfort and anxiety) could find themselves in a situation where another worker could purposely cause them added anxiety of being hailed off the HR for... saying something that goes against their morals?

Sorry - what SciFi film plot are we discussing here?

I don’t believe it is my place to instruct you on what pronouns to use about me
I see it the other way round, I think: I believe people should have the opportunity to state which pronouns they would like others to use about them.

I was diagnosed with high functioning autism last year, which has given me an explanation for my inconvenient inability to tell lies. I mean I do lie sometimes but I feel very uncomfortable.

I'm also autistic and struggle to say things that I do not believe to be true. Exceptions being: I'm clearly joking/in jest/being sarcastic, or I fluff out my speech with "some might say... Some believe" etc.

My BIL would explode if he had to tell a fib. Seriously - I have never met anyone who is just so damn 'good'.

Sorry - what SciFi film plot are we discussing here?

I think the title might be 'Earth: 2020' ?

Why wouldn't you just put your preferred pronoun in? It's just makes life more welcoming and comfortable for trans and non binary ppl and causes no harm to anyone else.

This never-ending trope makes me so embarrassed for people that say it. They have given exactly zero thought or intelligence to the matter, just brainlessly commented with a soundbite someone told them, that they didn't even bother to read more than once.

Three suggestions:

Offer the I, me, mine or you, your, yours pronoun sets, disingenuously pretending you haven't realised they mean third person pronouns;

Get together with all your office eye rollers and overwhelm management by inventing a unique set of third person pronouns for each of you (zhee, zher, zhers etc) and pick line managers up every time they slip up;

Explain that your feelings around your personal gender identity are currently fluid and shifting and it makes you feel very uncomfortable and pressured to be asked to label yourself in this way.

One or other of these will make them back right off.

How about:
When addressing me, please use 'you'.
when talking to third persons about me - you can use whichever pronoun you think fits best.

Dear HR,
I have no preferred pronouns.
Others will refer to me as they deem appropriate.
Many thanks.

I work at an NHS supplier and it's rainbow lanyards ahoy. A staff member came out as non-binary on our intranet to thousands of people and was praised for being brave and stunning. Some of the praisers have put their pronouns in their bio which I will not be doing.

Please get a sunflower one.

This is for people who can't opt-out of needing additional assistance, and although ist not as sexy/on-trend as the rainbow ones, they don't have a whole month (or six) devoted to how great/brave they are, or parade, or even a special cookie - this is one cause I back 100%.

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M&S (of all people) will send you one if needed:

www.marksandspencer.com/c/help/charities/what-is-a-sunflower-lanyard-and-how-can-i-get-one?source=affwindow&extid=af_a_Uncategorised_101248_adgoal&comgp=101248&cvosrc=affiliate.aw.101248&awc=1402_1581340638_818d4b7935dacb610e99e2c99a1083b4

Is there a lanyard specifically for people caught up in the slipstream of a passing purity spiral and desperate to escape?

I think I would choose He/ Him and ask for a pay rise.

Good to hear from other autistics who can’t do this.

I work for a supposedly NAS Autism Friendly accredited organisation and they’re also woke af and regularly circulate content on the importance of respecting pronouns. Seems they’re only autism friendly when you’re not doing anything visibly autistic.

Is there a lanyard specifically for people caught up in the slipstream of a passing purity spiral and desperate to escape?

We need any eyeroll lanyard.

Seems they’re only autism friendly when you’re not doing anything visibly autistic.

We like you to be diverse, but not too diverse or diverse in the wrong way.

I want an eyeroll lanyard.

You do know that you can get lanyards printed up with annnnything you want?

I too would go bananas for an eye roll lanyard! Off to research...

Yes, there is indeed a company that does bespoke lanyards! They will do artwork or use customers' designs. Yellow eye roll emoji on a computer-screen blue lanyard, anyone?

There are loads of places that do them (I’ve made some up for work). Can mine be pretty pink please?

"Is there a lanyard specifically for people caught up in the slipstream of a passing purity spiral and desperate to escape?"

this made me LOL so hard. Maybe we just need one with the words MAKE IT STOP repeated on a loop all the way round?

I think I would choose He/ Him and ask for a pay rise.

THIS!

Yellow eye roll emoji on a computer-screen blue lanyard, anyone?

Blue lanyard? BLUE?
Do you want everyone to assume we identify as men by using such a hyper masculine colour? you may as well stuff a sock down your skirt!