[quote CousinKrispy]**@michaelmumsnet* and @justinemumsnet*, thanks for your responses. I can understand that it's not appropriate for you to share private messages from a poster, and that you need to maintain the well-being of staff. It's no good continually losing hard-working mods to burnout!
I would really appreciate further detail, however, about what falls within the "unacceptably robust" category.
Many of us do not intend abuse or aggression but may express ourselves strongly or bluntly. Sometimes this is due to being from a different culture or being on the spectrum, or simply being at a point in one's life when one believes it's ok for women to be blunt (as long as we're not abusive) rather than softening everything we say (maybe we're gender nonconforming in that way!)
How can we help reduce the burden on your moderation team, while ensuring that posters with a valuable contribution aren't banned unnecessarily, and have an open debate on controversial issues? If being robust isn't acceptable, how can we learn to judge that better?
Or is it possible that robustness canbe ok after all? As someone from another culture who struggles with British norms sometimes, I find this very worrying.[/quote]
Good question - we've always welcomed constructive criticism, much more so than most other forums we can think of, and we don't have a problem with users challenging individual decisions (as users are doing here) or aspects of our rules; what's not on is 'rudeness and aggression' as Justine has outlined before. Accusing us of abusive behaviour - repeatedly, and after we have explained many times that we don't think it's acceptable to accuse us of this - falls pretty clearly into the 'rudeness' category, we think.