Having a Very Unmerry Christmas? Come Vent Here

[Lucky222]

My customary February birthday depression has started early. Am crying a lot and feeling 0% Christmas cheer.

I will be spending tomorrow with my grandma in her home & bringing a salad instead of sharing 3 course dinner coz of food intolerances. I will be glad to make her happy by my being there but also it's always a sad thing visiting her as her dementia continues to progress.

I hate being in my 30s & still chronically ill, single, childless, unable to work or improve my finances, lonely & isolated, all year-but 'special occasions' bring it to the fore & I struggle with these times.

If you having a sh*t Christmas because you are single, in a bad or abusive relationship, suffering bereavement, have health worries, are suffering financial stress, experiencing family strife or whatever it is, come vent in this thread & let's be miserable together. 😂

Fuck Christmas.

Someone poisoned our sweet little cat last week. She was put to sleep but not before suffering horribly. I have a strong suspicion about who did it but can't prove anything.

Day after boxing day I have to start making calls to try and get her brother rehomed as we fear we can't protect him.

Christmas can fucking do one. I hope the bitch gets fucking botulism from her Christmas dinner.

Omg so sorry about your cat. What kind of human would do this??

It's devastating. And such a cruel slow and painful way for her to go.

Thank you for your kind words Lucky222. Life is such a fucking joyless slog sometimes and this time of year just compounds everything.

Cagney im so so sorry. What a despicable cruel inhumane thing to do.

Cagney and Lucky so sorry

Oh god, I'm so sorry. Poor darling. May the person that did it never have another peaceful day or night, the evil sack of shit.

Lucky

I'm so sorry Cagney that's terrible. Shocking I'd be distraught. Where abouts in the country do you live. I'm looking for a new cat and he would have an amazing life with me. I treat my cats like Gods.
I only have one old girl now, she's 18 but she likes boy cats.

Sorry to everyone having a shit Christmas.

We’ve got three kids and two have autism and have spent the day watching the 7 year old who is much more like a 2 year old. Meanwhile husband went to pub with his work colleagues and didn’t appear until gone half 2 and has now gone out again to the pub with old work colleagues. I’m annoyed as it’s our wedding anniversary. Surprise, surprise I have nothing and he’s fucked off out. To top it all we have to see his awful family in four days including his arsehole brother who we haven’t seen in two years as he “finds the kids overwhelming”. I should add I watch them very very closely. Youngest won’t interact with them at all as doesn’t know them and the other two are okay (9 nine old is quite chatty but super sweet). So that’ll round off my Christmas nicely as my MIL is a knob and her boyfriend is hugely annoying.

Much better thank you.

@WhatWouldChristineCagneyDo so sorry about your cat. What an utter cunt to do that.

We're in North London, madcatlady

He's a funny thing, alternates between mad clingy & stand-offish. He acts like a contrary old man despite only being 8 or so.

He's very confused at the moment. He never seemed that attached to his sister but now she's gone he's quite bewildered.

Feeling a bit shit.
First Christmas without my wonderful mum.
She dragged me round Greenham as a teen and I miss her so much.
Such a formidable woman.

I was full time carer for my Dad who died in Ocrober after years of Alzheimer's. Mum and I pulled it together to get Christmas organised, lots of plans to keep busy and enjoy the things we couldn't for years. Now we both have horrendous chest infections and everything had to be cancelled. Feeling very poorly and sorry for myself with not an ounce of festive spirit left.

Sending all my best wishes to all of you. Christmas ain't what it's cracked up to be ...

Christmas is just one day. We put ourselves under too much pressure for just. One. Day.
Hugs to you all x

Trouble is..........its been turned into a three month trade fair.

Christmas is a clusterfuck for me this year. I am with the naysayers. Much love to us all.

And the cat killers are total fuckers.

As a child, DS1 observed that Christmas is a very long run up to quite a small jump. He's right. DS2 says the older he gets the more he understands that nearly everyone has at least one person they dread seeing at Christmas.

I'm lucky in my family but I know how rare that is. Sending to everyone who is dreading it and curses on the head of the unspeakable bastard who poisoned your little cat, WhatWouldChristineCagneyDo. What kind of shit person would do such a thing?

I hope you all get through the day in one piece.

My day won't be terrible but won't be fun either, depression has come knocking again and I'm overall a bit low.

DD is being selfish and ungrateful at the lack of presents she has to open. She already opened her jammies and Lush stuff having asked if she had Christmas jammies and soap to have a nice shower and still has a couple more gifts.

Part of me feels guilty at not having made a proper effort, half of me is too tired to care.

It's tough, Christmas. Not because it's hard by itself, but more because it's meant to be really special.

I've found lowering my expectations helps. Tonight 2 of my 3 children have sat down and watched a film and had a glass of wine with me. The third sent me a FB message from Australia. I know they all love me, and although I know that Christmas future may be even harder than Christmas present I have learned to appreciate the positive and block the negative and assume my old age won't be completely unmerry.

Appreciate the little things. It does help

My lovely daughter cooked an amazing meal. My husband sat with a face like a slapped ass. He yelled at me right after dinner for asking one time too many if he is ok.

My mother said something nasty to me and my oldest daughter asked her not to speak disrespectfully to me. My mum got angry and decided to go home.

I’m in bed trying to figure out how to proceed from here.

Good for your eldest DD @SecretWitch

@HelanaDove. I am so proud of her. Somehow she has grown into a strong and articulate young woman.

I’m thinking that next year we should should go to a nice restaurant and take the pressure off of everyone.

Sorry for all those sharing the Christmas misery :( so far the 7 year old ran into a door scraping a huge chunk of flesh from his shoulder needing steristrip via a visit to the Walk in Centre the last Saturday before Christmas. DH has stitches out from a minor op and scar looks horrendous. DF is showing his 92 years but keeping on keeping on. DU is currently on his way to ED thanks to the Merry combination of an infection and Alzheimer's. Sadly his DS is oblivious to how bad this is going to get and everyone is pandering to denial being merely a place in Egypt. And the horse is hopping on 3 legs with a foot abscess. This is the first Christmas in my entire life without a dog - lost both girls this time last year. Sooner am back at work the better!

Bleurgh. Really feeling for everyone who isn't feeling it this year. I wish it was over already. DC and I really enjoy Christmas, but DP's anxiety goes haywire at this time of year and it's really stressful, not knowing if he's going to be fine or really struggle. Close relatives who were supposed to come over for a bit have backed out, as would rather relax at another relative's. I massively resent DP despite knowing how crap it is for him, and feel guilty as hell, but fuck it, I would just love one uncomplicated Christmas Day when my focus is not on managing someone else's anxiety. Just this once. There, I said it expects sky to come crashing down.