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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Women being dismissed at the doctors

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UpfieldHatesWomen · 16/10/2019 16:15

I've had this problem a number of times, and a recent incident has got me absolutely fuming. I'm hardly a hypochondriac, I prefer to not go to the doctors and only go on average every two or so years when I have a problem that won't resolve on its own. This time I made an appointment because I had made a connection that I was getting chronic acne appearing overnight, at the exact same time and only when I had this other symptom, and wanting to know if the doctor could shed some light on why this was, as it didn't seem to fit the condition I'd been told I had. Instead I was told the acne wasn't connected, that I was imagining it, and was given the same prescription as before, which obviously hadn't worked. I've had other painful conditions dismissed in the past, on one occasion having to return several times for the same issue only to be asked by one doctor with a 'concerned' face why I was so worried about it as though I had Munchhausens (it was more the constant debilitating pain than 'worry' that was the issue, but of course that was all in my mind, silly woman!) until I finally got a diagnosis. In fact at this surgery I saw a number of different doctors, and the female doctor who finally diagnosed me asked 'has anyone actually examined you?' - indeed, the four previous times I'd been in they hadn't. Yes, it could be down to lack of time or resources on the NHS, but can't help think I would have been taken more seriously if I were a man, especially as these kinds of dismissive attitudes towards female patients are well-documented. Anyway, I'm venting a little bit, but I was wondering if there is any sort of campaign I can join that addresses these kinds of attitudes towards female patients? I'm lucky enough that this hasn't threatened my life so far, but it no doubt has for other women.

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HelenaDove · 17/10/2019 01:26

Ive been on Ranitidine for 20 years (Zantac) i was told if i lost weight it would help the acid reflux. I lost ten stone. Still had/have the acid reflux. Last year my surgery stopped it with no notice so i buy the lower dose ones. When i can afford to and when i can get hold of them.

What happened when i lost weight was even worse, Its on Graphistas thread.

On a recent Zantac thread someone very kindly told me what could be wrong.

In the late 90s pre Zantac i used to get up and eat something because that would stop the acid and this didnt help my weight and made it harder to lose.....i just couldnt back then.

HelenaDove · 17/10/2019 01:27

and they kept blaming the acid reflux on my weight.

HelenaDove · 17/10/2019 01:32

HelenaDove Mon 22-Oct-18 19:49:58
I lost 10 stone 16 years ago.. I got gallstones and it got so bad i couldnt eat SOLID food. i went through months and months of excrutiating pain and A + E admission. In and out of A + E for TEN MONTHS. then doctors coming to my home to give me morphine injections whenever i had an attack . Finally a doctor prescribed me morphine pills which melted under the tongue that i took every time i had an attack. First attack was 3 July 2002 Scan was on 19 Dec 2002 after months of A + E admissions . Early Feb 2003 i got a letter telling me id have to wait for ANOTHER YEAR. I cried my eyes out and actually considered suicide. It was only after a private consultation with a surgeon and then another admission to hospital and an NHS appointment with the same surgeon that my op was promised within 6 weeks It was done 5 weeks later on 28 April 2003.id lost 8 stone by the time i had my op. The surgeon and two doctors told me it was caused by losing weight too fast. (slimming world) The pain was excrutiating and the first attack appeared after id lost nearly 4 stone. Back then i had no idea fast weight loss could cause gallstones I was losing a stone a month and whenever i did try to slow it down i either stayed the same or gained.

I actually did seriously consider suicide especially after i got the letter telling me id have to wait ANOTHER YEAR. I thought it was beyond cruel especially when id lost the weight by myself with willpower.

i believe due to mixing tramadol with as many over the counter drugs as i could in the early months to stop the pain i have been left with long term issues and its also left a bitter taste in the mouth TBH. Im grateful for the NHS but i was in so much pain i was thinking of overdosing (which i was bloody close to anyway) i also think the fact i won Class Slimmer of the Year and started to appear in our local papers may have been a factor in me getting the op sooner than that awful letter said but i shall never know.

notangelinajolie · 17/10/2019 03:38

In the past 12 months both DH and me have had rotator cuff injury to our shoulders.

But the route we both took to diagnosis and treatment has been very different.

He went to the walk in centre, had an xray, nothing broken and nurse referred him to physio with suspected rotator cuff injury. All done and dusted on the day and he got his physio appt within a week. Symptoms improved over next few weeks. All good and on the road to recovery.

And me? walk in centre, had xray and told nothing broken and to book appt with GP to discuss results. GP printed off sheet of inappropriate excercises and prescribed cocodamol. 2nd GP appt - keep up with excercises and keep taking cocodamol. 3rd GP (male) pain due to bra and suggested I go for a bra fitting Hmm. 4th GP appt - when did I have my last period? (38 - I'm 55)Confused . 5th GP appt referred for CT scan. CT scan rotator cuff injury. Surgery needed. 4 weeks later still waiting for appt...

notangelinajolie · 17/10/2019 03:45

And that's why I'm awake at this time in the morning. It bloody hurts and the pain has woken me up.

Babysharkdoodoodood · 17/10/2019 04:18

I was told to do yoga for my classic gallstone symptoms!! So I got a private scan. Chock full of stones. Absolutely furious.

Got an appointment today and I'm dreading it. Had BC in 2012 and I've got really bad aches in my back and pelvis and really want a scan or blood test to rule out mets. I'll probably get guff about my weight, which I can't lose because of the steroids I'm on.
Ugh

Orangepearl · 17/10/2019 12:12

Yes nearly cost me my life. The pains all in your head dear.

FriedasCarLoad · 17/10/2019 12:18

I presented with a painful condition which had worsened over 3 months. Diagnosed, given exercises to do, told to use ice packs.

When my husband went a few days later with the start of the same condition, he was referred to the consultant. Hmm

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