What do you think of spinster?

[BlackLetterDay]

To me it seems pretty puerile, also very USA based. Is there anything similar UK based? Well apart from my

I think any forum where women are allowed to discuss their rights is great. I find the constant putting it down to be tiresome.

If people don’t like it, don’t use it 🤷‍♀️

Fuck sake meant mn not my

Probably secret groups I have no idea how to access, I'm just a twat nevermind

It originally referred to an independent single woman 1who earned her own living by spinning thread. I see it as a positive word.

It's great for free speech. At the moment it seems directionless. Lots of random stuff. I guess it's like Twitter, you can choose who you follow and stay in the Home thread so you only see their content.

Agree Not, we’re on a learning curve and as someone who doesn’t use twitter and prefers the MN chat type board it’s a new format for me and I ‘loose’ threads because it’s not like a ‘pinned’ board that you can scroll for thread titles.
I’ll get there tho.

And yep 2B I don’t particularly like the format / content of some chat sites eg netmums so I just don’t use it or talk about it.

Sorry OP - I might have been a bit terse, I keep seeing angry males online saying Spinster is “The Worst!!” and read your OP in that vein.

Yes closed groups can be better, but there are constant attempts to infiltrate them or close them down.

A Facebook support group for vulval cancer was shut down recently, after being attacked for transphobia (women saying “vagina” etc).

Hopefully those women can regroup on Spinster and continue supporting each other.

I like Spinster very much so far. It has been a great pleasure to reconnect with women I lost touch with when I left Facebook as well as Feminists who were banned from twitter and MN.

as well as Feminists who were banned from twitter and MN

This and not minding my pronouns is why I keep using Spinster, even though it can feel ‘odd’. I just need to follow more people and keep on.

2B
A Facebook support group for vulval cancer was shut down recently, after being attacked for transphobia (women saying “vagina” etc).

WTAF?

Can you tell us more about this?
Who shut it down?

I love Spinster! Like Twitter, you need to follow people and that’s the best way to connect and have discussions you’re interested in. Yesterday I had chats about volunteering, meeting an artist on my street, endometriosis and support for that, Māori language, prostitution... and I can have all of those discussions without being forced to use words based on other people’s beliefs that defy reality! Which is the best bit. It is the only platform that centres women and doesn’t ban feminists for speaking about women’s rights and refusing to submit to coercive control by men.

What Girldownunder said. The platform format takes a bit of getting used to and we're all newbies.

Just like the real world there's people you get on with, people you don't, topics of conversation you're interested in, topics you're not, and the occasional oddball you want to avoid.

Not having to self censor is refreshing. And despite its rep as only being about trans issues, I've had a lot of interesting chats about old fashioned feminist issues - violence against women, women's bodies, women in the arts, politics, the myth of "carceral feminism" - of the sort that I used to be able to have in other places but which now get derailed by constant attempts to force us to centre penis in the quest for "inclusivity".

Puerile is an interesting word choice for a woman-centred website, OP. Try puellile for woman-centred things that seem immature to you.

Unsure why you're finding Spinster immature, however. There are a range of discussions on there, ranging from silly and lighthearted to serious and political or educational. I suspect it requires more effort to find your niche on there than you have so far put in?

puellile? Fascinating. I also found 'anile', and am now wondering about the etymology of anus.

Anyway, does anyone have a link to 'spinster'? I'd like to have a look but it doesn't seem to come up when I google it. Many thanks.

I think that if you think something is 'puerile' then just stay away?

Does it really need a thread on a completely unrelated forum?

I joined yesterday and haven't quite worked it out yet. I guess I need to follow more people, just like on twitter - any recommendations anyone?

I love it. We can talk about women and men as actually being their real sex, without getting screamed at for being transphobic and hurting men’s feelings, by not cantering them.

I haven't used Twitter for years, so haven't figured out how to navigate Sp yet, also I'm fairly new to realising things aren't really stacked in women's favour, and don't know who to follow. So nobody's going to follow me as my name's not known to anyone. I think it's brilliant to have somewhere to be able to exchange ideas freely without the need to censor ourselves. Worrying about all that is very distracting.

Peach Yogurt set up a site didn't she? I've been racking my brains trying to remember it, will have more of a google. Or if anyone wouldn't mind please linking to it? (or PMing if preferable)

Peach Yoghurt's site has sadly closed down.

Was called Gender Hammer, not that it matters.

I'd like to join but I don't know how to get an anonymous email address any more now hotmail doesn't exist. I have gmail but it seems to want to link everything together which rather defies the object.

Does your broadband band provider give you email addresses?

If that was to me, Weezol, yes it does. I already have an email address with them, would that be a problem? Would they be able to be linked? I get so cross about how careful we have to be because of the risk of doxxing and harassment and the like 😡 But thanks for help, I didn't know I would have to know this and now feel old and stupid...

Google 'throwaway email addresses'.

When I read my OH's nan's marriage certificate, her occupation was listed as 'spinster' she was 19. I was shooketh.