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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Civil Service Toilet Conversion - Gender-neutral.

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HedgehogsRock · 01/08/2019 21:33

Posting for a friend (honestly!) who can't afford to be identified as she could lose her job. Apologies for the lack of details, but this is necessary unfortunately.

My friend is a Civil Servant and works in a very big office area. There has been a major works project carried out, spending an obscene sum on converting most of the toilet facilities to gender-neutral, a.k.a. mixed-sex, a.k.a. don't give a flying feck about women. There was no necessity to undertake any modernisation at all of the facilities as they are all relatively new and fairly pristine and no-one was consulted about whether or not they were happy to share facilities with the opposite sex.

The majority of women are not using these shared facilities and are walking to different areas of the buildings, to use the few toilets that are still 'women only', which of course wastes more time while clocked in at work. There are also longer queues at times, as there are so many women using fewer facilities.

None of the women feel able to complain about it as this is heresy and anyone who does, is very aware that they will be in deep doo-doo with the Woke management there. My friend's manager is very enthusiastic about the whole concept and how progressive it all is Hmm. The union have glugged much of the Kool-Aid too and will not help the women there either. To be fair though, nobody seems to have complained to the Union so far, but this is because they feel they would be viewed as the problem rather than having a legitimate concern.

There are only a few women who have been able to talk in whispers about this and are even afraid to ask others how they feel, in case Big Brother is watching and they will be reported to management. Resistance is futile and dangerous.

How did we get to this ridiculous position, where a few people could make a decision that would affect so many women, so negatively, without even giving women's requirements and opinions a second thought?

Are all of the Civil Service facilities being converted similarly and do management really have no concept that women require privacy and dignity, as well as safety?

What do we have to do before anyone listens to us and our very real concerns and how did women suddenly become so powerless?

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NeurotrashWarrior · 01/08/2019 21:59

Similar thread was around recently that might help; you may need the law on your side too.

truthisarevolutionaryact · 01/08/2019 22:01

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HedgehogsRock · 01/08/2019 22:01

I'll pass that on and have a look around for the other thread thanks.

Any input will be helpful, although tbh, I'm not sure what (if anything) she will feel able to do about it.

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NeurotrashWarrior · 01/08/2019 22:03

Not exactly the same but may be helpful

Civil Service Trans policy - what can I do? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3520371-civil-service-trans-policy-what-can-i-do

NeurotrashWarrior · 01/08/2019 22:05

jackyholyoake has posted a lot of info around re actual laws

Lysistrataknowsherstuff · 01/08/2019 22:05

Isn't the Civil Service subject to FOI requests? As such you could request all their decision making and impact assessments on her behalf. Then she'd be able to see whether assessments have been done or not and go from there.

bettybeans · 01/08/2019 22:08

If you're worried about management is there perhaps an anonymous whistleblowing mechanism you can use? It might not fit the remit of the mechanism but you could set out your rationale and explanation in your intro?

PierreBezukov · 01/08/2019 22:09

There was a terrible thread on here about women in the civil service being admonished for their expressions on finding a born male in the women's toilets - their expressions fgs!

It's called facecrime. It's in 1984.

This is all literally Orwellian.

NeurotrashWarrior · 01/08/2019 22:09

FWIW, I've seen this happening in primary schools for staff and secondary schools for the pupils as well except that all are single cubicles directly off a main corridor with a sink within them. So all effectively single unisex loos. (Secondary school teacher said it was great as no graffiti in the loos as everyone knew who'd done it.) so it's been a really shit design and probably breaks some laws or building regs somewhere.

truthisarevolutionaryact · 01/08/2019 22:12

To be fair PierreBezukov - I misremembered. She turned round and walked out - Neurotrash has just posted the link to the thread - and it is chilling.

BackOnceAgainWithABurnerEmail · 01/08/2019 22:15

In dfe, only the London office has gender neutral loos, they aren’t on all floors and they converted both the male and female secondary loos. Doesn’t make it right but it’s not as bad as suggested - they knew they needed single sex too.

GrapefruitIsGross · 01/08/2019 22:15

To be fair though, nobody seems to have complained to the Union so far, but this is because they feel they would be viewed as the problem rather than having a legitimate concern.

If there’s multiple women willing to complain, they shouldn’t brush them off.

Even if the union could raise a collective issue- saying that staff don’t like unisex toilets that haven’t been designed to facilitate privacy for those who don’t like sharing their loo with someone of the opposite sex.

They don’t even need to mention trans/non binary stuff if they’re worried about wokeness- just that these particular shared toilets aren’t appropriate.

BackOnceAgainWithABurnerEmail · 01/08/2019 22:15

I don’t work there but I have a friend who I asked after seeing a previous thread.

PierreBezukov · 01/08/2019 22:19

There are only a few women who have been able to talk in whispers about this and are even afraid to ask others how they feel, in case Big Brother is watching and they will be reported to management

This is very 1984.

OccasionalKite · 02/08/2019 01:58

Ask for the Equality Impact Assessment. It is a statutory requirement in certain situations. Civil service being one of them.

Alislia17 · 02/08/2019 03:11

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WaitingForAGovernment · 02/08/2019 07:14

Good practice is for staff networks to be consulted in advance, your friend could ask whichever network(s) she fits into when they were asked and what they said (there will be networks for LGBT, women, various religious networks, often BAME and disability networks, there may be more depending on the Department). If the answer is that they weren’t, that would give your friend a way of raising the issue via that network rather than individually, and based upon the legal list of protected characteristics.

stucknoue · 02/08/2019 07:19

What is wrong with unisex at work though, we have unisex and it's fine. There's more women than men so it's an advantage to use all the toilets. These are not being shared with random strangers, they are friends and colleagues.

SnuggyBuggy · 02/08/2019 07:22

Maybe we are going to go back to the days when women had to stay home when they had their periods

Juells · 02/08/2019 07:30

What is wrong with unisex at work though, we have unisex and it's fine.

It doesn't really matter whether you think they're fine or not, does it? If other women don't. WTF with the 'friends and colleagues'? Not everyone is that friendly with their co-workers of opposite sex.

WaitingForAGovernment · 02/08/2019 07:54

stuck That’s exactly what an EIA would look at. Off the top of my head:

  • the religious networks would consider if it would stop some women feeling able to use the toilets, for religious / cultural reasons
  • the women’s network would look at stuff relating to women experiencing periods / miscarriages / menopause related issues and other physically female stuff, and whether it would cause any problems from that point of view
  • the disability networks would look at whether this would create more demand for disabled loos and whether that would disadvantage people with disabilities

All these considerations, plus more (you need to cover all the protected characteristics plus it’s good practice to go broader where relevant) would be covered in the EIA.

At that point, there is sufficient evidence to make an informed decision, based on a thorough analysis of the needs and wishes of everyone involved.

EverardDigby · 02/08/2019 08:49

These are not being shared with random strangers, they are friends and colleagues.

I have had colleagues who have been in prison for armed robbery (though actually he was lovely, but hardly anyone else knew his history!), fraud (both creeps) and viewing child pornography / sexual assault. I was repeatedly raped by a colleague I had a relationship with, and have been groped by my boss. Not keen to share a toilet with any of them other than possibly the armed robber at a push.

thatdamnedwoman · 02/08/2019 09:28

Ask whether an impact assessment was carried out and then get women to contact whoever conducts it to point out that it's having a major impact on them personally and their productivity — as they have to seek out and queue to use distant facilities.

GrimDamnFanjo · 02/08/2019 09:44

Is the PCS the main union? The Gen Sec is Mark Serwotka, Ruth Serwotka's partner?
Would be interested to know if the PCS have a policy on this?