AIBU to think it's ridiculous to spend money on facial fillers?

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There are a couple of mums at my school who have clearly had facial fillers. One of them is quite open about it and recommends the doctor to other mums, but a couple don't say anything but i can tell they've had work done. Obviously it's a choice, and they can spend money how they want, but am I being naive to be shocked that they'd be that insecure that they'd make semi-permanent alternations to their face?

I don't dye the grey in my hair, I don't wear makeup, I rarely shave my body hair, I don't wear jewellery. I have had a facial chemical peel because I wanted one - horses for courses and bugger anyone who wants to tell me what's acceptable that I choose to do or not do in relation to my appearance.

onewasblue those are fillers not a paralysis agent surely. . Or do people do that in their lips now?

YANBU in the sense you are entitled to spend or not spend your money on whatever you want or don’t want. If you think it would be ridiculous to spend your money on cosmetic treatments, then of course that is your prerogative.

And I will spend mine on what I want. I get a bit of Botox or Dysport and a small amount of fillers to reduce and soften my 11’s (so I don’t look angry, when I am not) and my parantheses lines (which can leave me looking tired, when I am not). My dermatologist is very conservative and the look is very natural - I look like me but looking a little more refreshed as together the Botox and filler relax and soften the harsher more “aggressive” lines that crept up on me despite my lifelong liberal use of sunblock .

I don’t wear much if any makeup, and don’t want to, so those little cosmetic treatments help do what I don’t use makeup to do.

I don’t feel “insecure”. It’s hard to explain, but I feel it helps me match more externally how I feel internally, but I still look natural for my age - I can still move my face, have facial expressions, and all that good stuff. People are surprised if I tell them I have had anything done l. Because I still look like me, and am a very expressive person which has not changed.

I think it is worth every penny. I don’t do it to impress men on the general sense as I don’t give a fuck about them (and my husband, who I do give a fuck about, doesn’t care and loves and likes me grey hairs, mastectomy scars and all) but I feel good - confident, refreshed, and I think it gives me a mental boost to deal with the numerous people I deal with everyday in my work life and so on.

It’s certainly not permanent or even semi-permanent (which I would think would mean at least a few years!). Botox only lasts 3-4 months, fillers a few months to a little over a year depending on type, location, etc.

I have not figured out what “Botox lips” are except something that someone who definitely does not know difference between Botox and fillers would say?

I do find it a bit sad that so many women seem to feel the need to do this. And IMO its a massive waste of money..especially as the results often look..odd. However, I spend my money on stuff others would think was stupid, so who am I to judge really

Also I should maybe point out..I don't find it sad when women chose to get stuff like this. I was on about those who feel they have to do it, rather than that they want to, because of societys standards and policing of everything to do with women.

Personally I find judging other women in this negative way and being insulting about them crosses my line.

I guess we all have different lines. I'd rather use facial fillers than be a bitch about other women.

But you do you op.

I have lip filler because my top lip is non existent without it. My face is not ruined, I look in more proportion if anything.

I like it, my husband likes it(although he objected at first as he didnt want his wife to have duck lips - which they're not, they look natural)

I do as I want, it's my body and my face.

Dont like, dont look

If it's all about choice why is it overwhelmingly women doing it? Is it their 'lady brains'?

Somewhat stretching the topic, but I saw a few young women that had so much lip filler and other stuff done that they literally looked liked blow up sex dolls. I was really surprised to find that this is a thing, an actual look that some women aim for, and saw a young woman on facebook saying her BF really liked her 'sex doll' look.
Whilst I'm generally all for women looking how they want that certainly pushes some buttons for me.

I'm autistic and really don't notice this pressure much of the time. ...... I see no reason why I should give a fuck what people like that think

Ha! It's a very common theme among autistic people - not feeling strong external or internal pressure to conform to various beauty or fashion standards / trends. :) I find it utterly fascinating to see the differences between autistic and neurotypical women.

I'm sure there are autistic women who love cosmetics and clothing as a special interest and will spend a lot of time on it. But as a rule of thumb most don't.

I think it's a combo of sensory issues, not picking up on the socialisation of conformity as well as the sheer amount of mental energy needed for these daily routines. I'm in awe of how much energy neurotypical women have for these things, usually every single day. I'm exhausted just trying to keep a full time job.

I think the problem is that perfectly normal, even lovely, looking people are feeling that they are not good enough just as they are and are having unnecessary surgery and making themselves look completely different. The new look ruins anything individual about their faces and gives them this weird identikit 'look'. Saw photos of Lauren Goodger yesterday and was shocked by how unrecognisable she is. See also Courtney Cox. I remember Jennifer Grey messed about with her nose and tanked her own career because she just didn't look like herself anymore. It's sad that people feel the need to do this
I think it's different from using fillers to correct deep lines or a feature that makes people feel self conscious.
Cosmetic surgeons shouldn't be allowed to do procedures solely on the grounds that the patient can afford to pay for it and wants it.

I read somewhere recently that there was to be some kind of legislation passed whereby cosmetic surgeons will be expected to, first of all, explore the emotional and psychological reasons for wanting surgery - especially in the case of those that have repeated, or varied, procedures.

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