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Everything about you and your body is disgusting.

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MyTaxiIsAlwaysLate · 30/04/2019 17:22

Sincerely,
Buzfeed.

www.buzzfeed.com/farrahpenn/how-many-of-these-secret-gross-girl-things-have-you-done?bfsource=relatedauto

How Many Of These Secret Gross Girl Things Have You Done, Really?
We're all a little bit gross.

Plucked your nipple hair.

Continued to wear pants that have period blood on them,.

got your pubes trapped in your pads wings,.

bled on to your sheets a TINY bit but were too tired to change them ASAP

Only shaved bits of skin that would show.

Worn a pair of underwear even when you couldn't get the period stains out.

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AncientLights · 30/04/2019 20:57

Nipples don't have hair. The nipple is only the bit that sticks out, the surrounding bit is the aerola. They are covered with epithelium, same as lips. Nobody has hairy lips. Epithelium doesn't have hair follicles therefore hair can't grow there. Hair can grow at the margin of the aerola and the breast.

But how shocking is all this stuff about bodies being disgusting, driving a wedge between reality and an impossible fantasy. Not my fantasy btw.

Justhadathought · 30/04/2019 21:13

Sounds like the sort of thing a drag queen would write - with that typical 'ew' factor that many gay men feel towards women's bodies.

Justhadathought · 30/04/2019 21:14

Seems very focussed on menstrual blood too.......

FreezerBird · 30/04/2019 21:59

Best way to deal with post menopausal nipple hairs is to take your specs off before your clothes, I reckon.

These are words to live by.

StopThePlanet · 30/04/2019 21:59

Goosefoot

So, people with special sex sheets - do you have to get out of bed and change the sheets every time you are in the mood? That sounds like a lot of work, or planning ahead.

Our bedroom is small - used for sleeping and dressing mainly (DH is 6'5" so he needs space to move around without knocking things over). When it does happen in there we try to not make a mess. Special "Carrie" bedsheets are put on the bed the day of menses start so no planning required.

The largest room is preferred (ottoman hideaway holds sex sheets and "Carrie" sex sheets to protect furniture) so no planning is required.

We don't have kids, just dogs right now so we really don't have any restrictions and we don't plan... kitchen, Florida room, wherever it happens but if it includes getting horizontal we have furniture protection close at hand (no floor stuff, I don't like dog hair stuck to my goods).

ByGrabtharsHammarWhatASaving · 30/04/2019 22:00

Only shaved bits of skin that would show.

I specifically don't shave the bits of my body that are visible because I actively want everyone to see my hairy fucking legs. I want every man and woman to see my hairy legs and hairy pits and maybe just maybe get a tiny seed of doubt planted in their minds about what women are supposed to look like. Maybe they'll think it's rank but later on take a minute to ask themselves why they think that, and it'll make a small crack in their misogyny. Or maybe one of them will think "huh, a woman who doesn't shave - doesn't look as weird as I thought. Maybe I'll stop bothering." Maybe it'll help a few other women feel like the have permission to just exist in their own damn bodies. Visibly being unshaven is my favourite act of covert feminism so fuck you Buzzfeed, now and forever.

ps - not saying anyone who shaves is a bad feminist! The country I used to live in had communal showers at the swimming pool where you had to shower naked, and there were always loads of really hairy women there. It had a really profound effect on my perception of the "normal" female body and made me feel like I had permission to stop performing femininity so I want to pass that on.

FloralBunting · 30/04/2019 22:00

I shall share, with a small smile then, that what I refer to as nipple hair is in fact around my aerola, and feel as chastened as I would had I called my vulva my vagina

BettyFilous · 30/04/2019 22:10

ps - not saying anyone who shaves is a bad feminist!

I went through a phase of getting my legs waxed and the increased ‘drag’ when swimming during the inbetween growing out phase made me go back to shaving. I embraced legsuits st the same time so I could stop bothering with my bikini line. Ideally, a triathlon suit so that I only have to shave the tops of my feet would be ideal, but indoor pools have all sorts of weird rules about major swimwear.

ByGrabtharsHammarWhatASaving · 30/04/2019 22:18

BettyFilous I'm more of a "sit in the shallow end" kind of swimmer. Would never have guessed leg hair actually created drag!

MinesaBottle · 30/04/2019 22:19

We’ve got one of those sex sheets but we use it to put over the couch when we go away in case the cat has an accident. Can’t speak for sex but they’re very absorbent when it comes to cat pee!

Ereshkigal · 30/04/2019 22:23

Seems very focussed on menstrual blood too.......

YY. I guess it's because that's how women and girls are especially disgusting to the average Buzzfeed "writer".

BettyDuMonde · 30/04/2019 22:25

Minesa

WrathofscumKlop · 30/04/2019 22:27

Special sex sheets
That stuff spreads everywhere.
Special period sex sheets, genius.

WrathofscumKlop · 30/04/2019 22:54

Didn't occur to me to use a special period sheet.
No wonder the Klop mattress didn't look too great.

frenchonion · 30/04/2019 22:56

Bettydumonde we have a spectacularly 80s beach towel. DP produced it from his airing cupboard the first time we DTD in full flow as it were. I noticed it had 'posh club' embroidered on it and fell apart laughing. Now code for 'I'm on my period' is 'I'm in the posh club' and he runs for the sofa/bed/carpet saving towel 😂

terfsandwich · 30/04/2019 23:22

Libfems always say, it's your choice! No one is forcing you! Why do you think you have to do this!
Then they say, I do it, but because reasons! Not because of patriarchy!

hipsterfun · 30/04/2019 23:38

May I just add:

Hahaha, Buzzfeed, you don’t know the half of it, you fucking amateurs.

StopThePlanet · 30/04/2019 23:40

WrathofscumKlop

For the record, our period sheets are not specially made sheets I just gave them a special name "Carrie" dark blue and black to hide the continuous staining - I'm not into spending energy on sheet stains and as you know it doesn't come out in the wash without additional effort. We use a plastic-backed mattress pad (a more mature version of bed wetter's mattress pads so they don't make that weird plastic noise) to protect the mattress along with "Carrie" sheets. As a result our mattresses have stayed their crisp original color - looking/smelling good to donate upon purchasing new mattresses.

However, I've been having night sweats a lot so I have now invested in a number of plastic-backed mattress pads as changing the sheets has now become a daily occurrence. Stupid hormones - I hate going to bed clean and waking up smelly and sticky.

StopThePlanet · 30/04/2019 23:41

hipsterfun

Hahaha, Buzzfeed, you don’t know the half of it, you fucking amateurs.

So much this!!!! Lmao!

Whatisthisfuckery · 30/04/2019 23:49

I always thought that tit hairs were best plucked by one’s partner’s teeth.

and I get into period stained sheets the next month, because I’m fucking lazy.

DiscoDown · 01/05/2019 00:08

I have a period sex towel which I just chuck over the bed (then throw in the corner til the next morning when we're done). DP is as happy to have sex with me when I'm on my period as any other time, which is a refreshing change from XH who thought periods were disgusting. Bollocks to feeling shame for normal bodily functions and associated stains.

BettyDuMonde · 01/05/2019 00:23

Frenchonion that’s amazing and made me genuinely LOL.

I thought special covers for preventing period stains was pretty out there, but now I know at least three people who’ve taken it further and given their sex blankets/towels/sheets unique names and I’m 😂

We call periods ‘magical lady-time’ in our house. No idea why or where it came from.

ALittleBitofVitriol · 01/05/2019 00:56

Whatisthisfuckery
Legit lol

FloralBunting · 01/05/2019 01:17

I'm dealing with involuntary shudders at the idea of a partner plucking my chest hair with their teeth. Not nearly as appealing as a quiet moment alone with the tweezers.

What a delightful kaleidoscope we all are.

StopThePlanet · 01/05/2019 01:35

frenchonion

the first time we DTD in full flow as it were

Ha! Us too - between my scars and wonderful endometriosis period fun I thought he would run. A one night stand I initiated turned into 24yrs (so far) - never thought that would happen! I was very much hit it, quit it, no emotional attachment (worked different with female partners).

Now code for 'I'm on my period' is 'I'm in the posh club'

Lmao, brilliant! 😂

Bettydumonde

We call periods ‘magical lady-time’ in our house.

I call it that sometimes as well (where did it come from? I think I got it from my mom maybe) along with a lot of odd references I won't subject you to.

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