Update: identifying as non-binary for work award

[Somerville1234]

Can't find the old thread... but anyway, there's an award/opportunity at work, only for people who are LGBT+++. I don't remember all the categories but they included genderqueer, genderfluid and genderfree. Also K, which I'm reliably informed stands for kink lifestyle. I don't understand why someone would need a special thing at work for getting off on weeing and whips (?? I don't watch porn, I don't have a clue), but maybe I'm just old fashioned. Anyway, old fashioned or not, I'm gender free because I don't believe in gender. And I wanted the professional opportunity. (Forgive me for the vagueness - being careful because of doxxing.) And you lot were encouraging...

I ended up applying - which didn't involve saying how I met the criteria, just ticking that I did. And then I was perpexedly approached by my woke boss.
(WB "Erm... so you realise that this is for LGBT+++ employees, Somer?"
S "Yes."
WB "Erm...it was my understanding you're a straight woman...?"
S "I'm genderfree and-"
WB: "Really?"
S "Yes, and I think I need to remind you that the staff handbook recommends that no-one should assume anybody elses's gender."
WB: "Oh, terribly sorry about that.")

I then had a lovely meeting with HR where they were very keen to update my pronouns on the system. I told them that being gender free I require the box beside gender to be left empty, but that I can accept female pronouns because that's my biological sex. They were happy with this novel idea and to learn more about the difference between sex and gender. They young HR person didn't know they're not synonyms but he learns something new every day apparently.

And now... I've heard I'm shortlisted for the next round!
It's been announced to the whole company, and I've had a few bemused looks but no direct transphobia, I'm happy to report.
My longsuffering DH (works in same field) has been teased a bit for my gender identity but he's happy to suffer for the sake of my fight for equality.

Totally in awe. Keep kink and exhibitionism out of workplace and the public space.

I would report anyone I knew who was grooming children in that way.

I have reported underage activities in the kink scene before, and wouldn’t hesitate to do so again. One under age kink person, joining a group at the age of 17.

Any sexual act in front of another who has not consented to be part of that act is illegal. I would not hesitate to report that either. (And said so on another thread, and say so in the community. )

Well done Somerville. I hope you win.

Please don't derail this thread with your "community" nonsense. This isn't about you. It's entirely inappropriate to celebrate sexual fetishism of any sort in the workplace. No one wants to know about it. It's a charter for creepy exhibitionists who don't respect boundaries.

So you know what? I couldn’t give a monkeys if Bob, my printer upgrade project lead, gets his kicks from being Fido at the weekend, provided it is only fully consenting adults involved. But I absolutely reserve the right to mock workplaces that think that him getting off on this stuff merits him for extra special treatment IN THE WORKPLACE. It is woke almost beyond parody.

Well, the ops company are the ones to tell that to. Not me. Go take it up with them. Who has put the K on the award list.

Bank and Apoc have already ruined another thread. Give them any encouragement and they'll regale you with descriptions of their incredible sex lives in tedious mind numbing detail.

Er, you are choosing to post on the thread. If the tone isn't to your liking, there's an easy answer.

I told them that being gender free I require the box beside gender to be left empty, but that I can accept female pronouns because that's my biological sex. They were happy

And so are we Somer, so are we.

If someone discussed their kink with me at work I would report them to HR or possibly the police.

I think it is a form of sexual harassment. People have boundaries. The stupid hurts with this company. What are they thinking?

Awesome Somerville. You brave and stunning gender free woman.

Glinner's Twitter is really funny, I'm using checkwoke so much my iPad is suggesting it.
Somerville
I didn't see your other thread but this result is fantastic.
Glad to know Mr Lovely is supportive
Your thread about him was one of the first I ever read, I thoroughly enjoyed it, I may have shed a tear or two along the way.
I'm crying now but for a completely different reason.
Well done you 🤣🤣

An added bonus of being a genderfree person, is you cannot be called cis. You can actually get very upset about it too I imagine, and report it as hate speech for denying you exist!

Thanks for bringing gender free to my attention OP.

Agender never felt usable as in my mind it implied that I accepted gender as being important, but didn't have one myself.

But as the definition of gender free is thinking that gender is irrelevant bollocks, I am happy to use it.

Well spotted Humber

This thread is a cis free zone.

Yes by the Stonewall definition you're technically trans.

I agree. Genderfree is perfect.

I have no interest in discussing any of my colleagues sex lives.

I think we should choose a Gender Free flag.

How about a transparent one?

An added bonus of being a genderfree person, is you cannot be called cis. You can actually get very upset about it too I imagine, and report it as hate speech for denying you exist!

I thought I was well prepared, going into the HR meeting, but I missed this salient point.
I shall request another update to my file!

Genius

Maybe it’s time for a mirrored flag - so they can gaze in wonderment at themselves.?

mirrored flag - so they can gaze in wonderment at themselves