@Knicknackpaddyflak Substitute 'disabled employees' or 'BAME employees' and it sounds ridiculous. Check if your disabled colleague needs anything...this is supposed to be a competent adult colleague, not the office pet.
I think you have hit on something very fundamental that might explain how these policies come to be framed this way and why they are accepted as "inclusive".
I was a trade union activist all my working life and this is exactly how "white men of the left" carried on when trying hard not to be disablist, racist, sexist to the few disabled, black or women activists who managed to make it to committees, conferences, etc. They were clearly uncomfortable and threatened and the only way most of them could demonstrate they were "accepting" or "positive" was to be "coddling", ie. patronising and infantilising.
This is a stage all "equal rights" movements have gone through.
When I first read: "Substitute 'disabled employees' or 'BAME employees' and it sounds ridiculous. Check if your disabled colleague needs anything...this is supposed to be a competent adult colleague, not the office pet." my immediate reaction was that this fits very well with the "sissy" stereotype and that that psychopathology was what was behind it.
On second thoughts, it just seems politically astute. Presenting as the harmless, vulnerable "office pet" is a great way to appeal to the kind hearts and enlightened minds of the "great and the good" (sarcasm alert! Read: "the ruling class") and lure them into a false sense of security.
That any transgender advocacy group, eg. a:gender, could endorse this approach strikes me as entirely cynical and manipulative.
I agree with all the proposals already made above to challenge these policies. If I could add some more in addition, not instead?
Reminder of how well @Knicknackpaddyflak put it:
"Substitute 'disabled employees' or 'BAME employees' and it sounds ridiculous. Check if your disabled colleague needs anything...this is supposed to be a competent adult colleague, not the office pet."
- This infantilising of trans people is offensive and disrespectful and it is transphobic.
It absolutely really is transphobic: "phobia" as in "fear". I am sure there is a better metaphor but
"defanging the snake" is what springs to mind.
- In order not to discriminate against trans people, avoid using offensive, infantilising stereotypes. Instead, model policies and language on existing policies promoting inclusion of disabled and BAME employees.
- For the avoidance of doubt that these policies need to comply with HSE legislation and the Equality Act these facts should be stated in the "Introduction" to policies and the EA "Protected characteristics" should be listed - and stated that none "trumps" others, there is no hierarchy.
- Every statement about "issues trans people face in the workplace" must be balanced by an "impact" statement when mitigating the "trans issue" would discriminate against others in the workplace.
In reality, this relates primarily to transwomen and women so examples should reflect this, eg. if transwomen wish to be given access to women's toilets to reduce possible embarrassment due to the attitudes of men when using men's toilets, then:
- male and female employees should be consulted;
- it should be acknowledged that it is not possible to know which transwomen might desire this access because they genuinely identify as women and which men might do so for sexual gratification as part of a transvestic fetish;
- education should be provided for all affected with safeguarding prioritised;
- employees should be encouraged to consider how best to ensure this, with an open mind about how best to achieve this;
- education should always balance the interests of women and transwomen and therefore may require involvement of partisan trainers/materials. To do otherwise would be discriminatory.
- With rights come responsibilities.
Again, this relates primarily to transwomen as rights to access women's spaces can impact adversely on the actual or perceived safety of women employees. Training and education should be provided in the first instance for transwomen, not women, to ensure that:
- transwomen are aware of the adverse, traumatising impact their presence can have on women in vulnerable spaces such as toilets and shower rooms
- the organisation is aware that some men abuse rights of access for sexual gratification, that this will not be tolerated and will be subject to disciplinary procedures and/or criminal proceedings.
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Could anyone who genuinely suffers the agonies of gender dysphoria possibly object to safeguarding women?
If anyone claiming to suffer gender dysphoria objects to safeguarding women then is it not reasonable to question whether they actually suffer from gender dysphoria? And wonder if their motivation might be something to do with sexual gratification?
If any man prioritises the needs of transwomen to be validated over the needs of women to be safe and feel safe, what does that say about their attitudes to women?
If any woman prioritises the needs of transwomen to be validated over the needs of other women to be safe and feel safe, what does that say? The answer is an essay in itself but to summarise: they are NOT feminists.
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ps. I still struggle to believe that this weird stuff is actually happening. Every day I wake up and think, "Was that just some dystopian nightmare? Oh shit! No. This is actually happening. In real life."
I worked in psychiatry for a while and it struck me then that a lot of people were locked up not for their own safety but because if they were let loose that they would drive the rest of us mad, forcing us to affirm their delusions or they would go totally apeshit.
To avoid being smashed in the face on a psychiatric ward I have in the past stepped gingerly over invisible pipes that channeled "what I call Princess Anne".
Some of this shit is right on that level - but we are being required by law to go along with it.
I have a great deal of respect for the likes of Fionne Orlander, Jenn Smith, Seven Hex, Rose of Dawn and Mirander Yardley (notice how they all have a sense of humour?) and nothing but contempt for the foul Trans Taliban of #waxmyballs and Oger in Canada.
OMG!!! As i write this - BBC World Service - "Rainbow Range" Gun Club in California - "Socialist Rifle Association" - trans arm up 
The USA can deal with that, we have to deal with this offensive, insidious creep of "trans rights" in the UK 