Hi, the op had an email yesterday which I'm going to paste below, identifying parts removed. She hasn't taken any action yet but now thinks she does need to have a discussion as there are clear issues regarding the view of accessing women's spaces.
When I read it I must say I felt that if I were in the shoes of an employee receiving that email, I'd feel intimidated as the nature of the email is very much put up and shut up.
*From: XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
Sent: xx March 2019 xxxxx
Subject: Information International Transgender Day of Visibility (TDoV) 31 March 2019
DWP Finance Group
Message From: xxxxxxxxxx Director Of xxxxxxxxx
Message To: All Finance Group Colleagues
Date: xx March 2019
Information: International Transgender Day of Visibility (TDoV) 31 March 2019
International Transgender Day of Visibility (TDoV) is commemorated on March 31 each year and is a time to celebrate transgender people around the globe and the courage it takes to live openly and authentically, while also raising awareness of the discrimination trans people still face.
The word “transgender” or trans is an umbrella term for people whose gender identity is different from the sex that was determined for them at birth (based on the appearance of their sex organs). The word “transgender” and our modern definition of it only came into use in the late 20th century, but people who would fit under this definition have existed in every culture throughout recorded history.
The transgender community is incredibly diverse. Some transgender people identify as male or female, and some identify as genderqueer, non-binary, agender, or somewhere else on or outside of the spectrum of what we understand gender to be.
Some trans people take hormones and have surgery as part of their transition, and some don’t. Some openly identify as transgender, while others simply identify as men or women.
In many ways, transgender people are just like cisgender (non-transgender) people; but because of the social stigma surrounding transgender identity, the community faces a unique set of challenges.
The reality of living as a transgender person means experiencing prejudice, discrimination, material harm, and even violence and rates of mental illness in transgender people are very high. The privileged lifestyle of transgender celebrities like Caitlyn Jenner is a million miles away from what most will experience.
What can we do to support our transgender colleagues?
Listen - every individual’s transition will be different so you can’t second guess how they want to be treated or addressed. Pay attention to the pronouns and descriptions they use themselves and if in doubt, ask. It’s important to use he, she and they correctly; misgendering is highly distressing for many trans individuals and has the capacity to “out” them to others who are unaware of their trans history.
Avoid Intrusion - they may just want to get on with their job but let them know you are there to support if they need anything. You may be interested in hearing about their transition but avoid intrusive questions, even asking what their previous name was may be upsetting for them to be reminded of.
Be Brave - challenge inappropriate behaviour by other colleagues. Trans colleagues have to be brave every single day and by calling out unacceptable language and attitude, you may actually make all the difference to your trans colleague’s experience at work.
Avoid Assumption - If somebody has chosen to come out to you at work, that doesn’t mean they’re ready to come out to everybody. Even if the whole workplace knows about it, that doesn’t mean it’s okay to share the information outside the workplace without permission. It’s possible that they don’t identify as trans any more if they have completed their transition and may want to put that part of their lives behind them and blend in with everybody else.
Support Inclusion - nobody should have to worry about whether or not they’re allowed to use the toilets at work, so make sure your trans colleague feels safe in these and other same sex spaces.
Welcome trans colleagues at appropriate same sex events and be proactive about it so that they don’t have to ask whether or not they can come along, for example a girls’ or boys’ night out. Even if your colleague is not interested in socialising, this will help to make the workplace more welcoming.
Most trans people just want to fit in and don’t want to make a political point out of everything so don’t do it on their behalf. As long as they know that you mean well, they will understand if you make the occasional mistake. You can make a quick apology and then focus on making sure it doesn’t happen again. What they are likely to want most is just the same friendly, respectful treatment that exists between other colleagues in a healthy workplace.
You can find more information on the Intranet Transgender page including the Transgender knowledge hub which provides various resources. There is also a cross-government staff network that provides support and guidance for Trans and Intersex colleagues which you can find here a:gender network.
We have also recently launched the LGBT+ Ally Programme. If you are interested in becoming an Ally or want more information, please visit the LGBT+ Ally Programme page.
Xxxxxxxx Director of xxxxxxx*