Families of trans kids/teens/adults

[Moominfan]

Anyone in need of a support thread? I know I am. My sibling is f2m and it's devastating. They want to mutilate their body beyond recognition because they hate it and everyone else in the family is cheering them on. I'm the bad guy because I'm not supporting them how they want. Would love to hear from others and how they're coping. In real life I only know one mum who has an autistic daughter who's currently on puberty blockers, even though puberty has been and gone. Said it's making them really ill and is putting a brave face on.

So today my sister had her appointment with gendercare. Few hours in they have a diagnosis and start hormone therapy in April. Therapy didn't even get mentioned

Those girls on moominfan's post are so thoughtful and articulate about what they were trying to achieve with the trans identity.

DD is currently having a bit of a sad time at school in a totally normal for a 12 year old way. It's friends and popularity and who am I? It strikes me how appealing this ideology is for lost and sad young teenagers of whom there are so many (because it's a pretty normal thing to be). DD has been pretty well inoculated against this ideology (hopefully) by me and by her pretty strong sense of self but if she were even slightly more vulnerable, I'd be terrified.

It's just heartbreaking because as these girls demonstrate, if you give it a few years you have every chance of becoming an awesome young woman with perspective and self-acceptance.

And sorry about your sister moomin. So very hard.

Thank you rightontrek you've put that really well. I went through so many ideas as a teen trying to make sense of who I was away from my family as a teen. I imagine in a few years there's going to be so many cohorts of detransitionars

Hi joining a bit late but 14 year old DD told me yesterday she thinks she's transgender, she's always been a tomboy but it's never crossed my mind that she might be transgender. We talked a bit more today during the drive to her school, I asked her what she thinks it means to be male and her reply was full of gender stereotypes so I pointed that out and that got her a bit stuck. She seems to think I've just not been paying attention to all the "signs" because she's hated dresses since she was 5, always liked football, hung around with boys more and so on, I've noticed of course but that doesn't make her a boy. I'm worried she's using this to gain more attention, a lot has happened in the past year regarding her family life and I think I don't always spend as much time with her as I should, i try but it's not always easy especially when she's always off doing her own thing. It does feel like this could be a bit of a cry for attention

Hello elaphantie. Sorry to hear. Do you know where she's got the idea she might be trans because of all the stuff she dislikes/likes? I think at that age it's so hard to know how much attention they need, teens seem to disappear into their rooms and away from family life x

Feminine, possibly gay son- tick.
Best friend believing she was trans - tick.
Online exposure to trans positive videos - tick.

Result - one teen son diagnosed with 'gender dysphoria'.

Fwiw, his psychiatrist said the diagnosis is 'low hanging fruit' ie it isn't hard to get one. So it doesn't neccessarily mean anything about his future. She does pretty conservative assessments.

Even so, it does my head in, hearing her talk about a person who doesn't exist - my 'daughter'. Nope, got two of those, not three. I told her I felt gaslit by the pronoun convo, she nodded and wrote it down, lol. I do trust her not to dob me in to child and family services for insufficient support, but man, it's so stressful.

Sending all my support and love to families dealing with the gender monster.

There's a group online called Parents of ROGD kids that are supporting their kids but not affirming of their childs trans identity. You can make contact through their website.

GNC Centric is another young detransitioner who has a lot to say about her experience

www.youtube.com/channel/UCTY0IumyDAKe--wcRyL_Avg/featured

There are also more and more detransition blogs on Tumblr (#detransition). It might be worth having a look to gain insight as they speak about why they felt they were trans and the pressures and feelings driving them.