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[PatPhoenix]

but I still just had a slightly wry smile to myself.

I have an insanely hot date next Tuesday and I can't wait [drools slightly]. The man in question is mustard keen, and has;
-allowed his beard to grow for me as I like beards and prefer his face with some covering
-bought some massage gel
-plans clean socks
-informs me he will definitely shower first.

I have:
-had my hair cut
-bought 4 different lots of underwear including weird 'sexy' stuff but have fallen back on some new pants and stockings
-bought condoms
-had a facial
-spent a lot of time trying on different outfits and shopping
-booked an appointment to have all the hair ripped off my bottom
-booked reminders for painkillers, exfoliation and aftercare for this
-booked an appointment to have my feet titivated
-spent ages on GoogleMaps working out the most convenient shag-pad, transport times etc
-booked the shag-pad
-written a complex time-line allowing me to get DC off to school, ring my aged mum, do my work hours and get to the shag-pad in an appropriately clean and titivated state.

Now, of course nobody has asked me to do any of this (well, except the work). And a lot of it is enjoyable (not so much the hair ripping out). But it did make me laugh when he said 'I'll be putting on clean socks' as if he was scaling the peaks of preparation.

Sounds like you are going to have fun! Ask him to buy the condoms tho!

I bought them months ago! Just thought I should have some to hand, personal responsibility and all that. They're a brand that were recommended on here, not available locally so I thought that would be nice.

I also felt it was a bit impolite to turn up with only a vibrator for me, so have bought a companion piece for the modern gentleman .which I think will scare him witless tbh [tries to work out which end goes where]

After a shit year this is just so much fun to think about. I will thank feminism, and perhaps even a bit of the sex-pozzy third wave, which doesn't usually get much love on MN for damn good reasons, for releasing me to have the fun.

Clean socks eh? Maybe he is planning a trip to the local mosque...

maybe he likes clean socks?

Always better than dirty ones in my book!

I’m sure they are but what’s with this secret clean socks club at mosques that only you seem to know about?

Don’t you make sure your socks are nice if you know you have to take your shoes off? When I go to peoples houses I make sure I’m not wearing my ratty, greying sports socks with holes in the toes if I’m goibg to have to go barefoot. Ditto when I’ve been the the mosque.

AFAIK many of us are what I'd like to call 'positive sex positive' ... joyful intimacy between freely consenting adults is a fine thing, IMO.

I’m sure they are but what’s with this secret clean socks club at mosques that only you seem to know about?

Clean, unholed socks are also a good idea if you're visiting a Buddhist temple, or for that matter, my house where we prefer shoes to be left on the mat.

I think it's just that you take your shoes off in the mosque so it's best to have clean socks on?

Great derail of the thread by the way – can't get sexier than a mosque!

Nah you don’t have to keep your socks on when you go to the mosque and no one cares what state your socks/footwear is in - they would probably raise an eyebrow at cheap shots made at their expense though.

Or a temple? Or a dojo - that’s it - you are going to try kick boxing (better wear your comfy pants then).

Not a ‘cheap shot’ at all. You assume I haven’t been their ‘on business’ as it were, so more to do with my frame of reference.

my house where we prefer shoes to be left on the mat

I thought that was the norm, do people who wear shoes at home have 'house shoes' or do they wear the same footwear inside the house as they do outside?

Slippers or dr schol type footwear.

I'm not sure why noting that a mosque is a venue that requires you to remove your shoes is having a cheap shot at their expense. surely just an observation, no?

Ah, the question is whether visitors take their shoes off or not. I'm sure there's at least a thread a year about it ... though not usually on FWR starting from an OP about a hot date.

Just an observation... got married in one, so hardly a cheap shot.

With the amount of dog poo on our street (it’s got bad recently) and human poo (oh yes, dogs don’t do into little dark corners to deposit huge poos) on the street next to my office, in rather keen for people to take their shoes off in my home!

And this is why I heart MN

Mosques, Dr Scholl, discussions about islamophobia and taking socks off at the door. No other Internet forum does this IMO, especially on a thinly veiled 'I want to talk about my sex life' thread. Thank you all for letting me let off steam a bit!

Definitely take personal responsibility for the condoms, but I hope he's brought some too - it shows he's got a bit of consideration.
Have fun!
(Hope he has clean undies as well as socks!)

I bloody well hope that he’s a good shag after all that. And he leaves his socks on throughout.

Noooooooooo!

Hope your condoms haven't gone out of date. Happened to me once, they kind of smelled of egg.