I often wonder if some TRAs believe that their surface/performative feelings about it are exactly the same as women's must be,
Absolutely doubtless.
I'm reminded of the two transwomen on the Victoria Derbyshire show who were allowed to speak to a rape survivor, via a monitor, who had recently used a refuge.
The rape survivor knew very little about the trans ideology and was just relating her experience of men. One of the transwomen took issue over her blithely talking about 'women' by trotting out the wankery of their mother having had a hysterectomy, and so did that make them not a woman in the eyes of the rape survivor?
The rape survivor looked bemused and just brushed it off with well she had a uterus once. In a, 'I'm probably not explaining myself but I'm sure you know what I mean' kind of way. Not for a single second did she realise it's actually a pivotal arguing point of the ideology.
They genuinely believed that this piece of illogical, insulting misogyny should be a coherent part of their argument of why transwomen should be allowed in this rape refuge next to this survivor.
I've seen the same attitude over and over. Words like tone deaf, no filter, disconnect, cluster fuck. All used to describe this mens' attitude to the female experience, through the lens of their performance of it.