"I care more about people and their safety than what's between their legs". Feel free to tell you that you resposted his thing and one of your acquaintances replied the following. Oh please do.
He is oblivious to how long it took for men to understand even the existence of the concept of rape. Since forever, men thought that all sex was consensual, all sex, all the time, no matter how much the victim was sobbing, it was all consensual. They told themselves that the woman was just playing "hard to get" or "didn't want to admit how much she really wanted it". They even told themselves those lies regarding sex with children, animals, you name it, men are just that dumb and entitled.
Then, when men finally did get it, they immediately forgot how very long it took them to understand. They pretended that they've always known what rape was AND wanted a cookie for always knowing.
Fast forward many years, and then we had to have the long tedious conversations about rape in marriage. Men are DUMB. or they just play dumb as if they don't understand the concepts of consent and boundaries and can we explain it to them again, slower this time and with ever-loving kindness because if we should hurt their fucking idiotic feelings, they'll just say screw it and start raping us again.
THE DEBATE IS ABOUT CONSENT AND BOUNDARIES. In reality, women are entitled to set our own fucking boundaries. He gets to set his, he doesn't get to set mine. If he wants to pee next to a man in a dress then great, he can do that.
He also doesn't understand -- and really how could he, he's just a man and men couldn't possibly be expected to notice facts. Facts like male-bodied people tend to be bigger stronger more impulsive and certainly tend to assume that they are entitled to women's bodies any time they want. Facts like men commit 97% of all violence and 99.999999999% of all sexual violence against women. Facts like transwomen commit higher rates of sex crimes then even regular non-trans men.
This, is yet one more occasion where dood is being dufus. Male bodied person says that he'll kill himself if he doesn't get to pee while sitting next to a woman -- and other men say, "well gosh that sounds about right, okay ladies let him."
NO. My boundaries are not yours to give away.