Lurkers of FWR, pop in and say Hi!

[SophoclesTheFox]

I've just been reading this thread and I am utterly blown away by the number of women who say they are lurking here.

It's quite, quite wonderful to read that thread and I wanted to acknowledge it and roll out the red carpet if any of you wanted to post. I know it can feel a bit intimidating, like you have to have the right vocabulary, or some huge knowledge of feminist theory, but you don't.

Your words are valuable, and your unique view is important because together we're powerful!

We're also rude, funny, and most of all DISRESPECTFUL in all the ways that matter. Don't just lurk: join in you are very welcome.

I’m a lurker and was rapidly peak-transed by the erudite, witty and lovely ladies on FWR.

I want to spread the word and this board has given me the courage. DH self peak-transed as he loves women’s sport.

We came to understand the transborg, we are staying to fight the patriarchy!

SwearyG has a Harry Potter Smash the Patriarchy T-shirt:

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Hello wonderful FWR board. I have lurked on mumsnet (with a few posts) for a long time and always found it to be an education on how to be a sane, assertive, reasonable person. My reasons for feeling that my biology is intrinsic to my identity and life experience are very raw (I suspect many women may feel that way) so I am more comfortable lurking. I also work in the nhs and fear doxxing. But I have completed the consultation, donated some funds and will continue to support in whatever way I can. I'm in awe of regular poster's eloquence and knowledge and I'm extremely grateful for it.

I’ve been lurking for a long time but recent events have made my mind up to join. That and bumping into a representative from WPUK yesterday in my home town that made me feel things are changing.

I’ve been keeping my head down and only feel comfortable speaking up (a bit) now there’s so many voices joining in. Those of you who have been at this for years are remarkable.

I feel a bit like the US joining World War 2 (so I will be taking all the credit as a Joanie come lately )

I lurk - I'm here for hours every day - I spend far too much time on here. I should be doing other things, but I just can;t stop reading, and learning and enjoying the conversations , sometimes despairing too.

I've recently started trying to post a bit, but other people say it so much better and it feels a bit lame to just type me too or I agree which feels a bitlike spamming the thread without adding to the discussion.

Now my babies are more or less grown up, I felt mumsnet wasn't maybe my place ( although I still love a good Babyname thread) - but when I discovered FWR, I knew I'd found a bunch of articulate, funny, wonderful women and had to stay. You are all wonderful and FWR is the most amazing place.

I post occasionally but the FWR boards are always the first ones I read.
I don't post much because someone will gave already said what I6m thinking more coherently than me!
I'm very gobbby on Twitter though

I'm here too. Lurking away, squirrelling away information to help peak trans others in real life.

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I lurk every day.
Am a strident feminist in everyday life in 99% of issues, but too scared to post on here, because of the threat of disingenuous posters, because of hacking, because of doxxing.
I have learnt so much. It's all going in. I am seriously fangirling on several of you. 😍

Join in

I am totally inconhert most of time but nobody minds at all

Another long term lurker here 💐

I'm a lurker as well, and tend not to comment because everyone else says it better. This board has peak-transed me and opened my eyes to a multitude of issues that I fully agree with, but simply had never considered.

I think this is a fabulous thread.

A year ago on FWR, I was posting on almost all the active threads. Now, I can only manage to keep up with and contribute to a few at a time, so busy is it. It's wonderful.

I know it's scary to join any community that looks settled and has its own lingo and in-jokes, but we all have to start somewhere. I think the regulars are pretty good at spotting who has joined in good faith - everybody was lovely to me when I joined up even though I am sure I said some idiotic things. Don't be afraid.

Courage calls to courage!

Hello! I'm a long term MNer and have lurked in this section for years. I've even started following some of you on Twitter, and when I retweeted something the other day I lost about 10 followers in one fell swoop, so that was interesting.

I'm constantly amazed and blown away by the articulate and witty posts here. And yet there's compassion shining through too, for those who struggle with dysphoria, which says much to me about what this is all about. I'm so grateful for all you've taught me.

Recently my teen DD peaked and now loves reading this board. She also follows some kind of GC board on Pinterest. She's been trying to convert her friends, with varying levels of success - so hard for that generation.

Love this place. Thank you.

I am totally inconhert most of time but nobody minds at all

All the LOLs.

oi oi, Dog, this is why we love you.

I'm here

My employer (large organisation) is starting to drink the kool aid and I lurk here to keep myself informed / prepared.

Another lurker here. I have posted occasionally but I mainly read because the standard of writing from the brilliant women on here is awe inspiring!
It is definitely the best board on mumsnet by far!

Name changed to de-lurk.
I share many of your concerns, most recently wrote to my local rainbows leaders regarding my concerns about my daughters safeguarding on camps, received a reply back saying they can't guarantee my daughter would not be sharing sleeping and changing facilities with males and if I was concerned they could segregate my daughter..... basically meaning she will sleep etc away from all her friends!

Semi-lurker saying hi Thanks to all who post here and help the gradual trickle of logic into this debate Sometimes I think the tide is turning but then others it just seems like it’s a losing battle. I know we all need to be more vocal but it’s hard when you know for sure you’d be managed out for expressing GC views

Oi oi Lang 😂😂

Essentially I steal your words to use later so I can hold my own in arguments and discussions.

Yes! This.

I also wanted to add that I introduced my 72 yr old mum to FWR, so she now lurks, too ( Hi, Mum!).

We have fantastic conversations off the back of MN Feminist threads. They get very ranty and sweary and feel SO good .

I game with about 46 guys, just ordinary guys like plasters, mechanics, retired, school kids and have peaked them all
Some have daughters and not one single one thinks that guys can have dicks
So the n they get talking to their mate and families and word spresd about what is going on

None have them have ever heard of what is happening to women but they do not like it
So even if can’t talk about it at work do the chit chat with friends
It spreads

Great thread! I've been lurking here for a while, both on MN and on FWR specifically. I don't feel like I can discuss my GC views in real life: most of my friends are very 'woke' and I only have one GC friend whom I feel safe discussing this with, as well as my DH.

I was a very GNC child and wanted to be a boy for a while, although with the benefit of hindsight I think what I really wanted was to be able to marry a girl and thought that you had to be a boy to do it (this was in the 90s so before gay marriage etc). After a lot of soul-searching I came to the conclusion that I am bisexual and I am now comfortable with this. It terrifies me that I might have been pushed down the trans route had I been born a couple of decades later.

So, there's my life story I love all the posters here, such a combination of fearless intelligence, wit, and bravery. I hope to become braver and more outspoken in the future!

at Mama 3TresTrois!

I’ve tentatively discussed self ID with my work team a couple of times (all female team, ranging in age from 22-60).

The first time it cropped up in conversation about 6 months ago they had no idea about any of it and were a bit agog at me, I think (and I was quite tame in what I said). I felt like I was sharing my radical opinions on some kind of top secret knowledge with them. It was a bit uncomfortable, but hey ho.

Last week, it came up again off the back of Posie’s poster, and they were all totally on board. Couldn’t believe how ludicrous that Harrop guy was being. So I pushed a bit further and said a bit more, and it was received much better this time.

I still have to be very careful and measured in what I say though, mostly, as I work in an area where the woke brigade are strong.

I can be a disrespectful adult human female with my mum and DH, though .