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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Right, I'm here...

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Disgustingwoman · 29/09/2018 20:33

NC but long time reader, occasional contributor -cancel the cheque, softzilla, rugby players for parking problems, rent out your spare room (is that enough? I always wonder if there's a secret qualifying amount one should disclose in these situations?!) Anyway...

After months of consideration, reading, and sounding off at my DM, I've finally accepted that it's ok that I am not comfortable with the GRA. In fact, it's worse than that, I'm fucking furious with it all. I've spent the day angry, really angry. The poster incident has done it for me. I'm not usually an angry person, at all. And in my line of work I suspect I could be disciplined for holding the views I now have, but I am beyond caring (well, I have to care a bit, mortgage to pay and I'm a LP). But it's too important, for me, and my DD, and all women.

So, please tell me: how do I get involved? How do I start to make a difference? I'm already talking to people, passing it on, but it doesn't feel enough. I need to channel this more effectively -and if anyone has any anger management tips I'd be grateful.

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Molokonono · 29/09/2018 22:11

It's odd that it doesn't come up in a Google search.

For months last year, if you searched 'murdered women uk' you got no women, only trans women. Then overnight around April time, it all went back to normal. After loads of women pointed it out [for months...]

Disgustingwoman · 30/09/2018 16:25

I have made a donation and paid for membership with standing for women. Small step but feeling better for starting to take action!

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Fallingirl · 30/09/2018 16:36

There is this thread about meeting up with others in your area:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3259777-Lets-meet-up-find-start-gender-critical-feminist-groups

Fallingirl · 30/09/2018 16:38

And in my personal experience, meeting up with other clued up women is the only viable anger management😁💪💪

VickyEadie · 30/09/2018 16:44

Write to your MP.

And everyone - get the consultation done. It takes feckin' ages.

Disgustingwoman · 05/10/2018 21:30

Round up this week:

Spoken (out loud instead of in my head) to 12 people about GRA. First time was stressful but now I fear I may not shut up.

Started the consultation document.

Contacted some of my media buddies.

Agreed to be a guest on a podcast to talk about the GRA.

Signed 'that' petition.

Donated to standing for women.

Found an old friend who is involved and sent her my number so we can talk further.

What is worrying me the most is that people are not taking it seriously. They don't think it will happen...

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Budgieinaberet · 05/10/2018 21:43

Wow you have clearly done lots this week 🌟. [ wine]
I must get started on the consultation tomorrow

Barracker · 05/10/2018 21:51

Brilliant DisgustingWoman

That's really uplifting. Welcome to the sane side. We're all really nice, actually.

Disgustingwoman · 05/10/2018 21:53

It feels good to be doing something, but I am still very concerned about possible repercussions. My low was my DSis saying she wasn't signing the petition about stonewall as it would make her gay friend upset. I have to admit to sending her the delight which is jacinta at this point. As well as agreeing with her that stonewall are making a lot of gay people cry at the moment - in outrage.

The consultation is an arse.

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LittlePearl · 05/10/2018 22:46

Wow, well done OP!

LittlePearl · 05/10/2018 22:48

I think many of us are concerned about repercussions ..... I know I am. But this feels like too important an issue to be silent on. There's so much at stake.

Disgustingwoman · 06/10/2018 16:51

I agree. Too much at stake and I think we have a duty to just keep talking despite all the nonsense over the last few days. I am perplexed as to what powers are in play which are causing the very public u turns at present. That in itself is scary. I don't believe for one second these people or organisations have had such a swift change of heart without some serious (& scary) pressure.

In good news I did my 'talking thing' as I now call it again this morning. Just my usual gentle approach. My friend said 'but I don't think I know how to feel like a woman, I don't know what that means' And another penny drops over a coffee. I'll keep going.

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