Turph I was lucky enough to become sexually active back in hte mid 80s before internet porn, so "two people mutually going on a voyage of discovery together" was very much my experience. (We were crap at it to start with, but crap together if that makes sense).
Though other posters are right- toxic attitudes round sex and women's sexuality predate internet porn by a long way. And there's always been this central inconsistency about it all - women's sexuality is simultaneously portrayed as voracious and threatening and at the same time passive. Often the way misogyny squares the circle is via the madonna/whore dichotomy. Nice women don't want to and lie back and passively think of England, naughty women are sexually voracious, will thus cuckold you (and possibly snap your dick off by being too enthusiastic). Oh, and keep your madonnas on a tight leash, because inside every one of them is a whore struggling to get out, so you'd better keep them in ignorance (abstinence only sex ed) or at its most extreme, practice FGM to keep them "pure".
I remember back in my teens reading Bocaccio's Decameron and liking the "way hey, women like sex too" attitude. Then I read Margueritte of Navarre's riposte, the Heptameron, which is very, very much darker in tone - reflecting I think the reality that in a world without contraception or adequate treatment for STDs, sex had very real, and potentially devastating/life-threatening consequences for women. If anyone out there knows of any books examining Medieval attitudes to women's sexuality which include the few women's voices (like Margueritte's) that we have, I'd be fascinated to read it.
On a practical level, my main concern is how do I steer DS through adolescence with the clear moral framework that most of what's on porn hub is misogynistic abuse and not a good model for a happy, mutually enjoyable sex life?