catkind
Agree. And I also feel sad for children whose parents completely reject them if they express any cross-gender behaviour or trans identity. I don't know what the answer is, but surely the Tavistock's advice to engage in watchful waiting and let kids be kids makes most sense. In fact, IIRC, they say that for very young children, you should be cautious with social transitioning because it might make identifying with their birth sex later more strenuous.
As a general reminder for everyone on this thread, this is what GIDS.nhs.uk has to say about it:
The age at which adolescents socially transition has decreased in the last decade. Steensma & Cohen-Kettenis (2011) report that between 2000 and 2004, out of 121 pre-pubertal children, 3.3% had socially transitioned (clothing, hairstyle, change of name, and use of pronouns) when they were referred, and 19% were living in the preferred gender role in clothing style and hairstyle, but did not announce that they wanted a change in name and pronoun. Between 2005 and 2009, these percentages increased to 8.9% and 33.3% respectively.
However, quantitative and qualitative follow-up studies by Steensma et al (2011; 2013) present evidence to strongly suggest that early social transition does not necessarily equate to an adult transgender identity. The qualitative study reports on two girls who had transitioned when they were in elementary school and struggled with the desire to return to their original gender role. Fear of teasing and feeling ashamed resulted in a prolonged period of stress. One girl even struggled to go back to her previous gender role for two years.
As such, in our approach, we would encourage exploration of gender roles in this younger cohort, with a view to keeping options open and not having any pre-conceived ideas as the longer term outcome.
gids.nhs.uk/evidence-base