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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Chuggers target 91 women for every 6 men

79 replies

Hundredacrewoods · 08/08/2018 04:20

www.canberratimes.com.au/lifestyle/life-and-relationships/street-harassment-for-a-good-cause-20180801-p4zuu1.html

Long overdue article about how chuggers almost always approach women (91 women for every 6 men in the observation period), use gendered intimidation tactics and take advantage of women being socialised to be 'polite.'

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TransplantsArePlants · 08/08/2018 06:09

Yes. The fuckers rue the day they bound up to me with their Out Of Work Actor grins and faux 'I might just fancy you' twinkle Grin

Actually I am not rude. I just give them my 'I am not falling for your crap' mouth-only smile

TheDowagerCuntess · 08/08/2018 06:16

I'm polite. I smile and say 'no thanks' without slowing my stride.

In fact, striding usually stops them from even trying, TBH.

WeAreGerbil · 08/08/2018 06:43

One (a man) recently said to me "Can I talk to you about blah blah" and I just said "No" not aggressively but without stopping, but my 14 yo DD was quite shocked and thought I was being rude. I guess I need to work on her socialisation!

NotMeOhNo · 08/08/2018 06:43

They don't try me any more. I must have a mystical aura that reads: will rant furiously about the aid industrial complex. Bizarre that they've stopped. Good for me though!

Shampooeeee · 08/08/2018 06:47

Interesting observation. If you want to be polite, tell them you don’t live in the uk or whatever country you are in
Stops them instantly.

Cartertheunstoppablesexmachine · 08/08/2018 07:07

While I do my best resting bitch face, I was out with my mother and she's a chugger's dream.

She hates to be 'rude' and is the epitome of female socialization so I can see why they target like they do, but am working on her...

Hassled · 08/08/2018 07:10

I'm like a bloody chugger magnet - god knows why, because I have strangely never yet handed over my bank details to a smiley youth with a clipboard in the street and don't plan to. I will remember this statistic though and maybe start asking them what their male:female ratio is.

Potplant2 · 08/08/2018 07:12

I just say a firm NO and walk on. Like a man, I suppose. They usually recoil in horror, probably because I generally look quite feminine and smiley.

LassWiADelicateAir · 08/08/2018 07:29

My response to this research is so what if they do. There really isn't any effort required to ignore them and walk on as the Dowager says.

And no it doesn't mean you are behaving like a man - you are behaving like an adult.

FruitOnAPlatter · 08/08/2018 08:17

tell them you don’t live in the uk

This is what I do if they get me cornered - otherwise it's the cheery/less cheery 'no thanks' and keep walking...

Bastards - you can bet it's in the training, women already earn less if working, or are SAHM/working part time, and then they come after us for extra donations because we're a soft touch.

ProfYaffle · 08/08/2018 08:20

One of them told me once that they're instructed to target women with prams

EBearhug · 08/08/2018 08:25

I just say no and keep walking. I don't care if they think I'm rude. I also told one charity I do donate to that if they ever again phoned me to ask me to increase my donation, I would be cancelling it entirely.

womanspeaking · 08/08/2018 08:26

Doesn't surprise me at all. It's the moving into my path that I object to. I just swerve round them BUT I always feel guilty - they're young, maybe their first crap job and no doubt are working on some sort of commission.

ShamelesslyPlacemarking · 08/08/2018 08:27

I feel no guilt whatsoever about giving a brisk, cheerful, loud NO THANKS and continuing to walk without breaking stride.

When they call my phone, however, it’s a firm NOT INTERESTED, DONT CALL AGAIN, and immediate hang up.

PetitCornichon · 08/08/2018 08:30

My town is infested with chuggers, can't ever go shopping without being accosted by them 2-3 times in one afternoon. And I've definitely seen them target women mainly.

I'm usually a polite but firm "no thanks" whilst continuing to walk on. But I find myself being rude to those 'cheeky chappy' types that try the flirting techniques. Don't insult my intelligence you little wanker!

I don't actually say this out loud, kids around n' all that! But my well-rehearsed eye-rolling bitch-face says it all.

5000KallaxHoles · 08/08/2018 08:35

It's the whole "allright me darlin, see you've been having a nice day shopping now don't you care about the lesser-spotted Guatemalan dung beetle a lovely lady like you" shite they pull. I've complained to the charities in question before when they started pulling the sexist shite and commenting on my appearance.

Since I got older, more stressed, and more fat I'm less visible to them now but they get nowt more than a "no thank you" from me.

The door-to-door ones ring, then peer through the window and start gurning and waving at you if you ignore the door.

NicoAndTheNiners · 08/08/2018 08:38

I tell them I'm only 16yo....even though I'm blatantly a few decades older!

Beamur · 08/08/2018 08:42

I hate chuggers even more now.
I usually just keep walking, either say 'no, sorry' (socialised response) or 'no, I'm already late' (another built in apology). They're generally just kids doing a job so I don't like to be unkind.

AnduinsGirl · 08/08/2018 08:44

LOATHE the cheeky chappy type ones. I had one in Newcastle a while back who wouldn't accept no and fell into stride beside me and then PUT HIS ARM AROUND MY SHOULDERS. He took one look at my face and instantly fucked off but how dare he? And another (not legit, I think, selling "joke books for disabled kids") who did a loud hoity-toity style "ooooOOOOooooh!" waving his hands about and generally trying to shame me when I said a perfectly polite no.
Fucking hate the bastards.

Whatsnewwithyou · 08/08/2018 08:49

Where I live the local hospice has actually started sending them door to door. It's ridiculous as I'm often home alone during the day and don't feel comfortable answering the door to some random man. It's a good cause and I feel some empathy for then doing what they feel they need to do to bring in donations but at the same time a lot of their tactics are just really wrong. There need to be new laws I think.

PetitCornichon · 08/08/2018 08:50

PUT HIS ARM AROUND MY SHOULDERS.
Angry grrrrr!

I once had one run right in front of me and used his clipboard to stop me walking on. Now, I don't usually swear in public, but it was a natural reaction that day. He got it both barrels.

VickieCherry · 08/08/2018 08:52

I look through them. If they get in my way I say NO very loudly and carry on walking. The cheeky chappy insistent ones (give us a smile love, etc) get a firm FUCK OFF. They're annoying me, why should I be polite?!

Manderleyagain · 08/08/2018 08:53

I wonder what the figures are on how much people give to charity by gender. If they focus on women it is probably because it works. I've never signed up on the street (or at my front door) and I've never increased my donation when they ring up. That one annoys me too. But I do feel sorry for them on the street and in the call centre.

Chinnyreckoning · 08/08/2018 08:57

I had one at the door once. She had a Glasgow junkie drawl (awwweriggggtttt maaaannnnn hooooowwwrree you todaaaaay) and proceeded to tell me that I was lucky to live in such a lovely house and how surely I'd feel that I'd like to contribute to some poor people who aren't as fortunate as you etc etc.
Eh no...i worked hard and its my house and I don't need a fecking guilt trip on my own doorstep thanks very much. Door closed.
I give plenty to charity but I stop as soon as they bug me.

ThinkIveFoundYourMarbles · 08/08/2018 08:59

It's shocking how manipulative they can be. I once got: "Excuse me, Madam, could you spare 5 minutes to save a child's life?"

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