I'm just so bloody outraged

[LanguageAsAFlower]

Walking into town with my baby in his pram today as I rounded the corner by my house a man in his twenties nearly ran into me, as he was riding his bike on the pavement this exchange ensued:

Me: you should ride in the road.

Him: I'm riding on the pavement.

Me: I believe the law states this is a footpath. You're an adult on a bike.. in future please ride on the road.

Him: I'm riding on the pavement

Me: (nothing Walks on)

Him: I like your bum

And I'm posting this because yes, 8 hours later I'm still pissed off, but also I thought in some ways I was immune with a pram. Since becoming a mum I've felt pleasantly invisible to the average street Neanderthal and I've enjoyed that. How fucking dare bike Neanderthal try to silence me by sexualising me.

Anyway. Outrage,

This is why I fantasise about carrying ninja stars a peashooter or catapult.

Yes @UpstartCrow ninja stars!
Honestly I know it's small in comparison with some things but it just really drove home to me how vulnerable I am. Wish I'd kicked him off his stupid bike.

He said it to mAke you feel uneasy. Id hve been enraged too.

I fantasise about a stick through the spokes and watching them sail over the handlebars.

One of these days I'm going to find the brass ovaries to say "doesn't your mum think you're old enough to ride on the road yet?"

easier said than done I know, but the best you can do now is try to just let it roll off you

i can still remember some of the more egregious abuse I've received from men in the street (middle aged and invisible now)

so try to do as I say, not as I do!

Small things can be the things that really stick. Agree with duckula above - this was a power play.

Grim.

Carrie White had the right idea. (Apart from killing the lovely and female PE teacher.)

So grim. I'm trying to let it wash over me... but I'm so outraged that a man would think that's ok when I was with my baby. If I hadn't been so shocked I would have taken a photo of him. I think the other part of it is... I've worked with young people in this town for the best part of a decade so most of the under 25s that I bump into in the street know me and wouldn't dream of speaking to me like that. I guess in a way I just haven't been subject to this shit in so long. Urgh.

Everyday sexism

I honestly think men are devolving....is that the word? They're going backwards in intelligence. Maybe that's why we are seeing such a massive backlash against women right now...women are superior to men in almost every way they counts so men are using the one thing they have - their sheer strength - to push us back.

THAT counts!

You might have a nice bum? What's wrong with the compliment ? Get over yourself

0/10

Here, have a 'biscuit'. I made it myself.

The fact that he was cycling on the pavement means he's an utter muppet. The bum comment means he's a sexist muppet too. What a sad little specimen he is. See Studlee's comment for another example.

I'm bloody outraged at the Trump administration removing children from their parents.
At someone giving a slightly pathetic, slightly sexual comeback after being put in his place ... not so much.

We remove children in this country when someone breaks the law, also it was Busy one who brought that law in and continues to this day but no one criticises Obama ...why?

Oh @Studlee I am allowed to be bloody outraged at Trump removing children. As well as many other things. It was one example of many things that we should be getting outraged with - my point was to highlight the triviality of the OP's 'bloody outrage'z

OP, that is enraging. If you’d been a 6’4” bodybuilder covered in tattooes I’m sure he would have meekly said ‘sorry, mate’.

And Studlee (aside from the question of how long people can go on blaming Obama), you know perfectly well that wasn’t a compliment.

Ah, that tired old derail technique of "you're not allowed to get upset about a minor piece of low-level misogyny until you have first worried to an appropriate degree about ever other more important issue, misogyny related or not, in every country in the world..."

OP, yes, it was misogyny (as PP says, you can bet they wouldn't have reacted that way to a 6'4" brickie) and yes, it is okay to be annoyed by it, because all those little bits of misogyny are cumulative.

Urgh, horrid wee scrote

It's just so depressing, expecially when it's been a while since it's happened and you forget what it feels like. I hope he got a puncture and when he went to change it, he'd ridden in dogshit.

Tell him he's welcome to ride on the pavement (as long as he has stabilisers on his bike).

@Studlee

@pieceofpurplesky

@LanguageAsAFlower thanks for the . I think to be 'bloody outraged' is ridiculous - annoyed/irritated maybe but bloody outraged? You told him, you put him in his place and he retorted like a petulant 5 year old by name calling. It would not even really have registered as something to outrage me - and would not see it as sexualisation. Sorry OP