Why do men think they can just piss anywhere?

[WilsonPhillips]

We have a bus stop opposite our house, on a green. Today my DS and I were walking across the green and a bus pulled up, a man got off and as soon as the bus drove off he just stood there and had a wee as DS and I walked past!

Why do men think their need to piss is so important that they can just do it in public and we've all got to just put up with it?! He's not the first man that I've seen pissing in full view recently.

It makes me so cross!

I don't think I'd mind as much if they went for their al fresco pisses somewhere that they can't be seen. It's the blatant 'I need a piss and I'm having one NOW and YOU can watch' attitude that makes me so angry.

The man today that got off the buss literally just stood there next to the bus stop pissing. He saw DS and I had seen him and just smirked.

Never mind expensive hydrophobic paint, let's give them some aversion therapy by electrifying alley walls. I've seen a dog pee on an electric fence wire, that was an experience he never forgot.

Yes, it's not just that they desperately need to pee, there's no loo nearby so they find a discreet spot so no one has to see them. No, they get a kick out of being seen. Because more than about just needing to pee, it's about men being socialised from birth to believe it's masculine and powerful to be defiant, break rules and transgress boundaries. Ever heard one genuinely apologise? Or have you noticed the attitude is "I'll do what I like. And you can't stop me". Imagine being she forty but still pulling the "naughty boy" stunts like this. Pitiful.

Hhmm, it's vile and they do it because they feel entitled to. In the late-90s I once saw a (now disgraced) male celebrity weeing in the street in Soho. I told him it was vile, but only as it was 2am and I had a lot of Dutch courage, I wouldn't feel so able to had I not been drinking and this is what allows them to do it, they know it is intimidating and that few people will say anything.

Because men are like dogs.
A puppy never really grows up
They constantly look for your approval
They stick their nose where it’s not wanted with no encouragement
They whine when they don’t get their own way
They fart like it’s a sport
They often smell
They pant
They like to be let off the leash
And they piss wherever they feel like it cos they can

Agree about women caught short making much more effort to hide. And also to be considerate enough to pee close to a grate if they can, or well off the beaten track if out in the wilds. If the walls of an alleyway, or the biggest rocks on a narrow path at a beauty spot are stinking of the stale piss of dozens of people, forcing everyone else who passes that way to be subjected to the stench, it's not the women who have done it.
I think a certain type of bloke believes it to be some sort of marvellous deeprooted instictive alpha male chest thumping territory marking evopsych king of the jungle bollocks thing. It isn't. Some alleyway that you stumbled down while shitfaced, or a lovely nature trail on your holidays that you and hundreds of others might visit on a summer's day aren't your territory. They belong to everyone. You massive selfish entitled idiot.

Came out of a pub one NYE and some arsehole staggered past and pissed all over my feet! I have never wanted to smack someone so bad.

Just recently on way home from work with wee infection and I had to stop and climb over a gate to pee in a field well away from where anyone could see.

I think it just another of the many male dominance displays that we are confronted with every day.

Both DD's work at an upmarket family friendly pub. Checking loos and cleaning is part of duties. Both have had men walk in and pee in front of them. Not sure the one who said "Don't mind me" redeemed himself in anyway against the one who didn't bother. I'm outraged they would do that. Tempted to laminate a notice for them to put on the door when they clean advising "female cleaners, don't enter", but it's not really my place to interfere.
And on the other hand they have both had to deal with mothers who have put their toddlers on a potty in the middle of the restaurant. Trust me, I wouldn't hold back if I was seated at the next table. Anyway it makes no sense - presumably they have to go to the loo to empty potty after?
So probably I should calm down and be proud to have two good natured DD's who work hard and are learning excellent customer service and dealing with the unruly public skills.

Most men manage to control themselves don't they, so I don't see why the rest can't.
I agree with whoever said it's easier for them, and I love those Belgian style pissoirs, I just wish there was an equivalent for women.

Don't ever move to France Wilson, open air peeing is a national sport!

It’s absolutely disgusting and unnecessary! This really gets to me too as I unfortunately used to live about a mile away from a football ground when I was younger, so on match days they’d come past us on the way into town and use our back garden wall as a toilet. Didn’t matter that it was in the middle of a residential neighbourhood and kids would play in that area, no. Just because it was a slightly concealed corner out of the way, and over summer the smell was awful and my mother had to go out with buckets of water and disinfectant to clear it, usually by going to the end of the garden and tipping it over the fences whether they were there or not. No one blamed her.

It's rank. Male piss smells revolting too, and they seem to target bus stops. Disgusting.

My lips curl at the street spitting, I genuinely feel queasy when I see it happen.

My neighbour is a 50-60 yr old man and was nice enough to say hello too until a few months ago when he got out of a car obviously steaming drunk and then proceeded to piss all over my drive way instead of walking up his and into his house to use the toilet.

I am increasingly finding it hard to mask my contempt for mankind as a whole and it scares me somewhat because I have sons and I don't want to tar them all with the same brush, but god it's hard not to sometimes.

Nonsuchfun... Men peeing in male toilets is hardly a disgrace. If the toilets are open they are open. Did they really pee in front of them or did they pee in the urinal?

Elise... That is disgusting, can't believe you kept your cool.

The spitting shows up male entitlement even more imo. There is absolutely no reason for a man to do this any more than a woman but you don't see women doing it.

In the urinal, in full view while they were cleaning the sink area. They could have chosen to shut themselves away in the cubicle. I think it was incredibly disrespectful of them.

NonSuch: I think this is normal isn't it? At motorway service stations you sometimes see signs saying "female operatives cleaning this area" outside the male toilets.
I'm sure they all don't use the cubicles.

I think a large motorway service station loo area is different to the somewhat confined space of a small men's loo in a pub. The girls are unmistakably young teens, I think they deserve more respect.
Luckily they were less huffy about it than me so you can put it down to over protective mother if you want to.

I was sitting in the car parked outside a service station once. This man parks next to me, gets out and starts pissing on the bushes. Its a service station, there's toilets inside where people dont have to see you.

At this stage, I feel it's important to say...Not all men.

But of course some of them do, and it is really gross. Someone pointed out to me recently that central London smells of men's piss, and it's true.

I drove past a mum assisting her young DS having a wee against a bush next to a bus stop the other week. Guessing he'll grow up thinking it's ok.

I had an awful feeling that it would have been me, until I read the next to a bus stop bit. I always make DS try to hold on until we reach an actual loo first though, and it that fails I don't just have him do it in the street next to bus stops! He has a mild bladder issue so he goes from not needing to go to needing to go right now occasionally. Not all the time though!

It's the smell that gets me, some mornings you walk through town and it reeks of male piss!

A guy I was at uni with was kicked out a few weeks before we graduated. He worked in a bar in town and had been fined for pissing on a wall across the street from the bar, after he'd finished work for the night. Unfortunately for him, he then got caught pissing in the same place again, a few weeks later. Because the wall in question belonged to a church, he ended up in the local paper and was deemed to have 'brought the university into disrepute'.

Why not just piss at work before leaving? Why wait until you've just walked out of the door to do it? And after getting fined by police the first time, why on earth would you do it again? That really is saying 'I'll do what the hell I like'.

Both DD's work at an upmarket family friendly pub. Checking loos and cleaning is part of duties. Both have had men walk in and pee in front of them. Not sure the one who said "Don't mind me" redeemed himself in anyway against the one who didn't

Im a hygiene inspector working in various food factory’s, I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve been stood besid o e of those long trough type urinals checking the cleanliness and some bloke had whipped his dick out and pissed right beside me. The cleaners tell me they’ve had blokes pissing in the troughs as they’ve been cleaning them.

I used to work in very busy public toilets as an attendant. The differences between mens and womens toilets is incredible. Womens toilets are much much busier, use tonnes of paper, a lot of which ends up on floor so they are really messy. But the mens! Oh my god the filthy bastards. Poo smeared everywhere, pee all over the walls, various disgusting fluids all over the surfaces. Bear in mind these were daytime only toilets, fully attended at extremely busy tourist attractions. I am talking daily occurrences not occasional abominations.