General anger and resentment towards men

[BornAgainFem]

Over the last few years I have learnt alot on here (you're all fab by the way!), and have reflected a lot on my past and previous relationships with men (friends, family and romantic relationships).
I have developed a real underlying anger and seeping resentment towards men in general. I feel bad about this but can't help see how the patriarchy has moulded alot of the men in my lives. Even those who would claim they're feminists have an underlying tone of misogyny, I even see it in DH.
Has anyone else gone through this and how have you overcome the bitterness? It's eating me up.

esk1mo and others blaming “mothers” for their sons’ behaviour as adults, what about the fathers?!

Since school days I have dislike a LOT of the men I know socially, for specific reasons, but yes, often to do with their espoused attitudes and behaviours that may - or may not I guess - be rooted in sexism or “male privilege”.

I dislike some of the attitudes and behaviours of the men I like or love.

I find it trickiest when men I don’t think are good at their jobs have power over me at work. Those men haven’t said or done things to make me concerned that they are overtly sexis.

Surely the point is that a feminist forum (or a 'group of women talking about the problems caused by men' to give it the belittling description used by a pp), although it could be considered an echo chamber, is a counterfoil to the echo chamber that is the rest of the world, that much of the time wants to pretend that male violence (for example) is a human problem rather than specifically a male behaviour? (Though to forestall some potential comments, I fully accept that it is only a small proportion of men statistically speaking.)

@LaSqrrl

It is interesting to see places/classes, whereby women do not need men for survival. Many women remain unmarried. It is why, 40 years after demanding 'equal pay', we are still only 85% of the male wage on average. To keep women dependent on men.

Years ago I read a very interesting book about Irish nuns in Canada - the writer had come across years' worth of letters from a nun to a friend in her home town. The writer became interested in why thousands and thousands of Irish women had joined Canadian orders, and her conclusion was that it was a way of escaping the then-normal life of marrying someone who drank heavily, and got you pregnant year after year after year. Women who joined Canadian orders became teachers or nurses, and had a satisfying career. It was very attractive to bright girls from poor backgrounds - they were bright enough to analyse what the alternative was, and if they joined an Irish order they'd have to be a lay sister (who did all the grunt work) if they didn't bring a dowry to the convent.