Relationships

[ThreeTinedFork]

Just curious as to how many heterosexual women on here have found that their beliefs/position has been an impediment to relationships?

I'm single after my marriage ended several years ago.

I find that the majority of men I meet (I'm early 40s) have viewpoints regarding/expectations of women that are just so incompatible with mine that I would be unable to consider a relationship with them.

Even those men who seem more 'enlightened' hold beliefs that are more in line with 'libfem' beliefs and I'm still expected to 'conform'.

Over the years, I've met/dated/had fledgling relationships/long term relationships with men from a variety of social/economic/educational backgrounds and every single one has failed either because I'm not 'womaning' properly in one way or another.

I can't be the only one who has experienced this?

Mid 30s. Spent most of my life single. I think I’m just too used to being my own woman and refusing to put up with men’s bullshit. I think a lot of men want women ‘inferior’ to them, and I’m intelligent and outspoken and refuse to laugh at men’s shitty jokes or defer to them in the ways expected of me and this puts men off, makes me ‘difficult’. I think I might die alone, but considering my mostly shitty experiences with men i’m not sure this is really such a bad thing!

@HotRocker good luck.

There has been an interesting debate about who should pay on the first date on the AIBU board.

Lots in agreement that it should be split (including me) but when you get to the nitty gritty of it its the only bit of feminism that some men will do enthusiastically. Because it benefits them.

When it was pointed out that because of the gender pay gap and grooming expectations women were already at a disadvantage there was a lot of whataboutery and gaslighting.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3249615-to-think-he-should-pay-on-first-date

Met DH when I was 18. Together for 30 years. He was brought up by a feminist who I used to roll my eyes at a bit when I was in my 20's. I thought women's rights were all sorted. Now I get it!

Back to DH - he's great