I'm surprised there is anyone convicted of rape
Too true. Here's some of my stories.
A friend of mine (years ago) came home from a night out, crying. She said she'd been raped. We all consoled her, and made her a cup of tea, and said she should call the police. She said no. No one would believe her. She wasn't credible.
Her reasons were that she'd been drinking. She slept with lots of men anyway (consensually), and that as she was in social care, she was the wrong type of victim. So she left it. And moved on.
I had an incident at a house that I voluntarily went back to. I had a drink, and then don't remember being in control after that. I don't want to go into details. But there were 2 men. And passed around like meat is an apt description. If anyone had walked in, they would have seen a 'threesome'. But that was not the case.
I did nothing. Because I chose to go back there. There were no witnesses. I could not prove anything.
Rape via my ex, I never did anything. How can you prove a boyfriend raped you? His word, your word.
Rape in a car with a 'friend'. I bled very very badly. I was only 16, so I didn't really understand what had happened. I did confide in another friend, and then they told an adult. But as I was already starting to be a 'prick tease' dressing in short skirts etc, then I had really brought that on myself, and they told me that it was 'sex gone wrong', not rape.
No witnesses, his word, my word. He was nearly 30.
My friend, (who I've spoken about before on these threads) was raped and beaten by a stranger. There were witnesses. There was evidence. STILL she had to go to trial. Her sexual history dragged up. How much did she drink, what was she wearing. 'Luckily' she never 'slept around' and she made a good credible witness.
Her rapist got 8 years (out sooner).
So, unless it's stranger rape, and violent, and you have witnesses, and plenty of evidence, I wouldn't put myself through it.
And men will continue to get away with it.
I don't know what the answer is. But I know that anyone who puts themselves through a trial and the 18 months to get to trial, and the hatred and vitriol women experience for 'crying rape', is probably telling the truth. There will be a teeny tiny minority who are not well, and make a false accusation. But then that is true of any crime.
For those of us who couldn't go through with it and those that did 