Ethical porn for teens

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Okaaaay, I'm sure I've read about porn produced my women and sort of softer?

So basically teen ds know how I feel about porn and understand why............but are there any porn sites like what I have mentioned, that They could be pointed to?

God I know this is a ridiculous question and situation. But I would really like them to understand sex properly, sensual. Not degrading, strangulation, sluts getting banged, yanked about ect.....

I don't know what else to say, but hopefully you get the jist.

I would stay out of it. If They are old enough to watch, they are old enough to find their own ethical porn without your help.
I'm not sure any porn is ethical anyway so I'd prefer to give my children my views on porn and then trust them to make the right decision for them.

Why on earth earth do they need to watch any type of porn?

And how old is your DS? Under 18?

God I know this is a ridiculous question and situation. But I would really like them to understand sex properly, sensual. Not degrading, strangulation, sluts getting banged, yanked about ect

Um, talk to them?! Why the fuck do you think they need to watch porn?

If you want them to learn about normal loving sex, surely you would get them an appropriate book, rather than point them at porn sites?
My generation, back in the 70’s, had worthy tomes such as “The Joy of Sex” or “How a Woman Loves to be Loved”, which I remember were swapped between male student friends and diligently studied, for tips on how to help their girlfriends achieve orgasm. I gather that modern porn doesn’t give a shit whether women enjoy sex as long as men can brutalise them via every available orifice. And yet people claim the 70’s were sexist!

Why on earth earth do they need to watch any type of porn?

Well quite, in an ideal world they wouldn't, but given it's referred to links all over the internet. Peer showing porn stuff on their phones, The chances are they are going to come into contact with porn and follow curiosity.

Yes under 18. Yes I know porn is for over 18s. Same as sex is for over 16s...........

QuentinSummers that was my gut feeling too, leave them to it. But i just wondered if there is something out there at all.

Oh dear god. I haven't got teens of my own yet, but I really don't think giving them porn to watch is a good way of teaching them about sex. Talk to them. There might even be magazines that help, like "more" back in the day (I'm pretty sure my boyfriend when we were both 17, learnt about a clitoris and what to do with one from fhm...)

Yes the joy of sex book would be good. I was hoping there maybe a sort of equivalent site, if you see what I mean.

Is it even legal to show porn to under 18’s? Sounds rather unsavoury anyway.

Buy an educational book for him.

Yikes

Totally understand why you want to do this, totally understand why everyone is oh dear good no

Fact is children are going to go looking and rather than turning a blind eye to what you know they will see, try and steer them where

Otoh just dear good no and having your mum recommend porn is just...

Are there any sex ed sites for teens that might explore the issues and point them to how to try and find stuff that isn't god awful violent racist misogynist etc..?

Oh dear god. I haven't got teens of my own yet, but I really don't think giving them porn to watch is a good way of teaching them about sex

I wasn't going too give them porn to watch, and we do talk a lot. More wanting to know if there is an alternative out there to the 'porn industry'

There are some female porn makers in the UK who say their output is more female centred and that their actors are all keen, Anna span is one

Have you googled "feminist porn" something of a contradiction for a second waver but still.

Sgb will be along in a minute.

Of course not watching it is also an option

Are there any sex ed sites for teens that might explore the issues and point them to how to try and find stuff that isn't god awful violent racist misogynist etc..?

Yes yes this would be good to look for, thanks.

I know it's so cringy, me : here y go son, have look at that!

Out of interest, if you had a DD rather than a DS would this still be your preferred method of sex education?

Google doesn't have much I only had a quick look.

Prob best to avoid the sex education on porn hub

I think DDs will be looking too tbh

I did have a quick Google about feminist porn, but it was mainly articles about the industry. Then I thought of asking on here.
Thank you Snibble

They know not watching porn is option I would most appreciate.

Mum approved porn. Can see the kids being all for that!

Cindy Gallop did a TED talk on this a few years back - this is her.

talkabout.makelovenotporn.tv/2018/03/09/the-cindy-gallop-guide-to-turning-a-cheeky-topic-into-a-serious-business-virgin/

No idea if its suitable for teenagers but Cindy Gallop is about making love, not porn.

Ethical porn is an oxymoron.

It's not my preferred method, as have used other methods, and am very frank and open to questions. Which so far is working well. As they are open and are not afraid to ask stuff.

The porn side, is more about how much I know teens are getting into it, and getting addicted and normalizing shit. Yes I've talked them all about that too. But porn is everywhere.

Yes I think if I had a DD I would have done the same so far, if she was curious about porn then yes probably.

She does not pull any punches, she may not be the woman you want you child to meet but I think she is worth listening to.

Mum approved porn. Can see the kids being all for that!

I know! I hadn't thought far enough ahead as to how I would errrr... point them in the right direction

There is no ethical porn. Even if there was, I can't imagine that being pointed towards it by his mum would be anything other than excruciatingly uncomfortable for a young man, and can't imagine him wanting to sit down for an afternoon of mum-facilitated porn viewing. That's just awkward.