How to know if a male feminist is really a feminist

[Mamakiks]

I've been seeing a new guy for a few months. After a miserable and unequal marriage I'm trying to keep my eyes wide open and not get bowled over by emotions and I think I'm doing ok so far. He talks the talk of a feminist and we don't spend enough time together in environments that I'd be able to see if he walks the walk too, as it's mainly at home that inequality occurs in relationships.
Are there any signs I can watch out for, to catch out even the most practised fake feminist?! Apologies if this sounds really cynical, he is very lovely, but I never again want to find myself in an unequal relationship.

[Titsywoo]

"If you want an idea of how a man will treat you, watch how he behaves with his mother."

I've heard this before - thing is I've had boyfriends who were amazing with their mums but were complete arseholes. DH did not get on well with his mother when we met (because of her infidelity which badly affected his childhood). So this doesn't always mean he is a good guy!

[ohfortuna]

I agree I think it's an oxymoron

[MrsTerryPratchett]

Both my husbands loved and respected their mothers. One was a spoiled Golden Boy. The present MrPratchett is not. It's the relationship with DM not necessarily how they treat their DM.

[qumquat]

Is he willing to change his mind on things? This is a Biggie for me. My partner didnt 'get' feminism when we got together but he listened to me and discussed things with me and his knowledge and opinions have developed and he's become a strong feminist ally (not that he'd ever describe himself in those terms). Sadly now an ex for unrelated reasons but he'll make a fab partner to the right woman.

[Mamakiks]

Yes I would agree with that being a biggie qumquat and will look out for it a little more. Anyone willing to change their mind on any topic has a level of maturity that I like and respect.