Anyone hit their thirties and suddenly *give no fucks*?

[GinaFordCortina]

I've just found I'm speaking up loads more and telling off twats men more and more. Just had a go at some blokes catcalling teen girls. It's like I feel pushed to the edge about everything

Well done Henrythehoover

My last fuck was given back in 2006.

It is truly liberating that i don't need acceptance or to be silent and compliant, or to sit back and listen to 'i don't want my daughter to have tattoos and piercings, they're very unladylike'. "Woman: know thy place" was my retort and you could have heard a pin drop in the staffroom

My simpering Sil thinks i'm hard and scary. I'm not at all, soft as the inside of a bunny's ear. I just don't put up with bollocks anymore.

(Oh, i'm 42)

A bit later but suddenly at about 42, I had a totally epiphany and having spent far to much time worrying about what people think of me, now I give zero fucks. Slightly sad and regretful about all the wasted time I spent concerned about what x or y thought of me, but trying hard to channel that energy into training DCs to be more emotionally robust and not waste time dithering like I feel I did.

I already have no fucks left to give. I dread to think what will happen as I inch into my 30s and older.

Youcantake: don't dread it, it'll only get better!

Down With Bollocks

I am early 30s and definitely running much lower on than previously. Unfortunately I am also heterosexual, wanting to have children, unable to afford to do so solo, but thinking I can't actually be in a relationship with a man again.
That aside, had a brilliant moment recently. Had been perusing this board earlier in the day and was walking along minding my own business thinking feminist thoughts when some bloke wolf-whistled at me. Because of where my brain was at the time, I automatically turned around with a look of such horrified disgust that he went "oh... er... sorry" and looked sheepish. It doesn't sound very exciting but it was probably the first time I reacted authentically without socialisation overriding it...

That's brilliant miss

Pretty cool, miss

I'm also starting to not conform to social expectations : I. E. Go on, have a glass of wine.

No thanks, I hate alcohol, it makes me feel like shit, why would I drink it to please you?

As pp's badasses have said, I think motherhood also contributes to this not giving of fucks.

It took me longer and I'm nearer my 50s but no fucks given here. I refuse to be walked over, used, or mansplained to. I won't put up with any shit but I did for a long time. DH is getting that way too but is a bit slower. It's liberating not to be talked down to and to say NO.

I have found that the combination of being a single parent (I do a fucking million things a day before breakfast and still get into work with hair/tits/teeth intact so cross me at your fucking peril), being over 40 (and thus viewed as respectable) and most importantly reading the feminism boards on here to awaken my anger at just why the fuck it is accepted that women do everything, (you lovely lovely lot) has led to me saying things I've long thought but hitherto been too people pleasing to voice. Now not a fuck is given and each instance of this just spurs me onto greater challenges. I'm enjoying it!

Totally. I'm in my 40s but yesterday had evidence of the so few fucks I had to give in a branch of Claire's (the fuck free zone).

My 8yo is very shy, went to the till with a hairband and her pocket money. The assistant behind the till asked her twice if she wanted to "buy three get three free". I was just within earshot and responded with "are you really trying to upsell to an 8 year old with $4 allowance in her wallet?" It had been a long day, I was out of fucks and Claire's was the final straw.

Ah, Fluffy that's the one I tried to link to love it. I also love this one:

I sent an email follow up on a complaint today and just said 'any news on this? ' whereas before I'd have been bowing and scraping.

There was a thread on here that inspired me to do that - I've eradicated 'I thinks' and 'Perhaps' from my emails (unless appropriate) - I just say 'remove that paragraph', 'change this to that' rather than couch it in excuses for having an opinion

I'm not at all, soft as the inside of a bunny's ear. I just don't put up with bollocks anymore.

'soft as the hair in my feminist armpit'

Me too - but apparently my reputation amongst DP's work colleagues is one who takes no shit and gives no quarter (I may have expressed my opinions on certain aspects of our industry occasionally)

soft as the inside of a bunny's ear

Awww! Love that ❤️

Just signing in to the DGAF clique

I hit forty and very very suddenly I was utterly devoid of fucks, it was astonishing. It's not always easy, because people were quite shocked at the change, but it's worth it.

Im 31 and this past year I have rapidly starting running out of fucks. Some people dont like it but.......I dont give a fuck

Thanks to the feminism board on here, which totally opened my eyes to things I was blind to before. I even feel like my attitude is starting to have an empowering effect on my mum. And DD1 has just turned 12 so Im hoping she will enter the teenage years with an outspoken, take-no-shit attitude. Plenty of time to work on DD2 (18 months)

I had an epiphany on not giving a fuck this very weekend at a festival...it was liberating...I'm hoping to take it forwards into normal life...