Ok I'm happy to shift my language to accommodate the feelings of a marginalised group, are you willing to stand against the violence those born with penises inflict on those without?"
You could try this with people who aren't trans. But since it is the very basis of women's objections, it's been refuted repeatedly.
Obviously it can't actually be refuted. But the party line is that both transwomen and women are actually women. To say that one has a uterus and one doesn't is cissexist and you should check your privilege. That women come in all shapes and sizes. And if you think you can exclude transwomen for not having a uterus, then what about women who have had a hysterectomy. Are they not women?
If you point out the oppression is based on biology, you will get told that transwomen suffer far worse oppression due to being trans. A double oppression. Plus all the usual misogyny reserved for women. Then you will get told you are obsessed with genitals, that you reducing women to their genitalia and you have a vagina fetish.
But honestly Dervel, if you get anywhere, any where at all, please report back.
I've seen women argue against this all the time. The fact that it even needs an argument shows you how stupid it is.
Which is right, eventually, women end up just responding with fuck off you're a dude. The same old tired arguments just keep repeating themselves. To no end.
If your friends have bought into the trans-ideology, they must agree with everything I've written. Otherwise they themselves are transphobic.
I should imagine they don't want to be seen as misogynists either. Unfortunately you have to pick one.