I've just lied on a dbs check.

[IWillCrushYouLikeABug]

I need one but it won't let me out two surnames with concurrent dates?!

It's incredibly common for a woman to use their birth name at work and a married name for personal use. My passports are in my maiden name. My bank accounts and driving licence are in my married name.

I'm fully expecting this to flag up and cause a problem as I've had to say I stopped using my married name 10 years ago... but still used my passport to do the dbs check.

but what the fuck am I supposed to do?

If society is going to pressure women to change their names it would be beneficial if it actually assumed we were part of society and needed to use its services!

And before anyone feels the need to say I shouldn't have changed my name.. yes you are right. I didnt want to. Ten year too late now though to undo it thanks. And if anyone had warned me why a ball ache it could be I'd have probably stood my ground.

Thanks Pizza. You're right 'maiden name' is a ridiculous term.

(But actually, what is a better term? For example, at birth Jane is named Jane Feckless after her birth father John Feckless. John abandons his daughter and is never seen from again. Jane's mum changes her baby daughter's surname back to her own surname so Jane becomes Jane Mum'sname. Mum then meets and marries Bill Lovelyman who brings Jane up as his own. Jane's surname is changed to Lovelyman like her siblings and parents and she grows up known by everyone as Jane Lovelyman. When Jane marries she chooses to take her wife's name and becomes Jane Happy. Her Birth name was Feckless, her first name was Mum'sname. Her family name was Lovelyman. On marriage she changes from Lovelyname to Happy. So what is the term of the name pre-marriage that goes on the form?)

Urge. That just sounds like a huge pile of arse caulk. This is clearly a normal thhing. They should at least have a procedure in place and an explanation of what to do on the form.

I may write a strongly worded letter.

Not DBS related but I recently married and changed my name, my bank ran a credit check on me when I changed it and negatively effected my credit rating! I've not bothered changing my name on my credit card.

Name changing is a pain in the back side!

Birth name would still be birth name as maiden wouldn't cover all of those. I think I'd just say "previous names" Ex had three names. Birthname, Notsolovelyman, Lovelyman.

but notice he never takes on Iwillcrushyoulikeabugsname.

cow see I think that's awful. You're taking part in a normal societal convention, women still get comments when they don't follow this convention. Why punish them for doing the "right" thing.

Thinking about it, I wonder if it's that women having so much paperwork to do in the first place is kind of new? Women in professional jobs would have been expected to give up their career when they got married anyway as he could afford to support them. The accounts and mortgage were probably in his name too

Completely off the point but wouldn't it be lovely if house prices were affordable on one salary; if you didn't HAVE to have two salaries?
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It's only illegal to use a particular name if you intend to defraud. You can call yourself whatever you like as long as everything is open and you can be identified.

Bucket head was able to run for office and I'm sure I hope he doesn't use that name professionally

In my opinion there should be no such thing as a "maiden name". The very existence of the term is sexist. Why should women change surnames if they marry and not men? Why should women have to have one name "professionally" and another "married name"? My name is my name. It always will be.

I'm a feminist and almost never post on the feminism boards due to exactly this type of leaping to criticise. I am clearly not good enough to post here.

I have never experienced this. Even though most posters are a lot more experienced and knowledgeable than me they've been nothing but welcoming and encouraging, tolerant of my mistakes and always discuss things in a friendly way. I've learnt a great deal and I love being able to post here.

Hi cupcakegirl13 can you advise me please. I’ve put my DBS and I’ve put it all in my maiden name as that’s what I’m known as. Passport, driving lincense, council tax even my home and doctor. It’s come back a snag I think because I put Miss not Mrs I’m worried sick because I didn’t know how to do it ☹️☹️

sunshine clearly works in HR at my company, they’ve just told me I’m “not allowed” to use my original name at work when I’ve changed it outside work.

Interesting to hear this is possible. I’m USA you have to change your name or not, legally, in terms of anything requiring your Federal ID# anyway. Then DBS asks for former names.

However in your professional life (like academic publishing, etc) you can call yourself Glafnable Snarfblatt if you want to. A lot of people I know keep publishing under maiden name even though they don’t use that name in any legal sense (other than as a former name).