Like others I am only aware of my labia after childbirth , when injured or when a stray pube gets caught somewhere. I have NEVER just felt them rub together whilst walking into a shop and thought 'oooooh I feel female'. What the actual fuck?
Having said that I have never sashayed my way into a boutique with perfect hair, a short tight skirt, a large sparkly bag and perfectly manicured nails either...maybe if I try woman-ing the same way as males do, I might become aware of the little things such as my labia rubbing together to make me feel female.