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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

is this sexist to be commented on every morning

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moomoome · 22/04/2016 08:44

every morning i go into work the man i sit next too needs to comment on what im wearing. i work in a professional job and always wear professional dress. many of my colleges wear t-shirt and jeans etc. im aware that my background (Hertfordshire girl, mostly dresses) makes me a bit different from my rural Australian female colleges (pants and shirt). but is this not a bit sexist to greet me with comments about my dress? his comments im sure are kindly met but he and the boss see no issue in this. i find it extremely sexist as my ability to do my job is not based on what i wear.

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FaithAscending · 29/04/2016 10:24

I think he's unreasonable to comment all the time. I think I'd respond in kind so he gets how weird it is, example:
Ah moomoome I see you're wearing the dress and tights today.
Er, yes Dave and you're in jeans and t-shirt?!

Degustibusnonestdisputandem · 29/04/2016 10:50

BuffytheReasonableFeminist yup, shit isn't it? Angry It is slowly getting better I think, but there are still a lot of racist, sexist idiots in country Oz.

scallopsrgreat · 29/04/2016 12:26

I'm not sure the fact that he doesn't say similar comments to other women is an indication of him not being sexist. The fact is he is singling out a woman to make comments on about her appearance everyday. He wouldn't single out a man for the same treatment. I would imagine that would be considered very weird generally and probably wouldn't even cross his mind no matter how the man was dressed.

PalmerViolet · 29/04/2016 12:54

the kindest interpretation is option B

We don't have to be kind.

(slightly off topic, but it's no less true)

LaContessaDiPlump · 29/04/2016 13:08

No, we don't have to be kind. I try to be, though, as a general rule (and not just to men re: compliments)!

One can have boundaries (i.e. pushing back when comments make you uncomfortable, however well-intentioned) and still be nice to others.

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