Sharing about harmful effects of porn in a thread in feminism

[Italiangreyhound]

Over on chat we are having a helpful but rather sickening conversation about porn and it's negative effects on young people.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/2610074-Anybody-up-for-a-general-chat-about-the-damaging-effects-of-porn-on-young-people

This was prompted by originally sharing the article on this thread...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/2609569-Very-sad-article-about-porn-and-how-it-affects-relationships-for-young-women

I just thought, as Chat threads disappear after 30 days, that people may wish to share their stories anonymously of negative experiences of porn and other may wish to write to their MP about how porn is harming our nation's children.

I am not interested in positive experiences or free will choices, I am interested in young people negatively impacted by porn (or older people who were impacted negatively by its use in the past) or people (women and men) negatively impacted by working or being coerced to work in the porn industry.

I am well aware MPS may not want to read a thread on Mumsnet but Mumsnet themselves may wish to take this further and sharing stories in one place like this may be of use. You could still point your MP to it!

Please only share your own true insights or information you are permitted to share on behalf of another anonymously. I recognise this is all anecdotal but I also feel sharing, and being heard, could be useful.

This is for anyone who wants to share or read about ways:

to share the damaging effects of porn and early viewing or porn, - so to de-normalise it

to inspire others to write to their MP about safer controls or any other measures to challenge the view that porn is normal and that it is not dehumanising

to share resources to fight porn/useful links etc

to share ways of talking to children about it

and finally, to assist people in contacting their schools about this type of thing.

Thank you.

[LassWiTheDelicateAir]

Find a style that works for you and it will be like having a naughty third party there to turn you both on."

Ugh.

I've had almost no experience of porn beyond accidentally (yes honestly) stumbling across a channel on a television in a Dutch hotel room. This was a good few years ago. The participants were clearly adults and weren't doing anything, for want of a better word, unusual. But it wasn't attractive to watch.

Maybe it's just me but genitals aren't particularly attractive and whilst doing things with your own and your partner's set might be fun watching other people 's in action certainly was not.

[Italiangreyhound]

lass could not agree more!

[KindDogsTail]

This Hussey man's article said We know men are visual creatures, this is a simply a visual stimulation

So he is twenty seven, the girl in this scenario is in the prime of her youth and beauty, acutually alive and breathing, but he still needs visual stimulation !!

If you ask me he has something seriously wrong with him. But just imagine a young girl being made to feel inadequate and being made to feel she needs to be in competition to be visually stimulating enough.

This is from Gio's article
www.contributoria.com/issue/2014-09/53b7d8cc5cf0625c470000f1/

She found herself coerced into increasingly disturbing sex with him. “It started off being soft stuff but then it became gonzo stuff. He couldn’t have sex with me unless he was watching something at the same time. He couldn’t get erect or have an orgasm. ’As time went on he felt more comfortable putting on things he actually wanted to watch, like simulation rape. I knew that it was acting, but then a few months down the line I didn’t think the women being filmed were acting any more. I now know was he was watching real rape he found online. “It didn’t matter who was lying beneath him, his eyes were on the screen mimicking what he was seeing. He was very violent with anal sex, I would cry and ask him to stop, but because that was what the women in the films were doing, he wouldn’t accept me saying ‘no’ as meaning ‘no’. He thought it was all part of the game, he thought he was doing his acting while I was doing the girls’ acting.

[VestalVirgin]

Maybe it's just me but genitals aren't particularly attractive and whilst doing things with your own and your partner's set might be fun watching other people 's in action certainly was not.

I always wondered about that. Most people don't look that good naked to begin with, and porn focuses on the genitals, which are not the most aesthetic of body parts anyway ...

[greypubes]

I am a feminist but I do enjoy watching porn. 1 out of 3 viewers of online porn videos are women. I must confess I watch scenes daily and look forward to it when my husband and kids are out of the house. For these reasons I would not like to write to my MP about it. Apologies to the group.

[Italiangreyhound]

greypubes re "1 out of 3 viewers of online porn videos are women" care to site your source for this?

Is this once ever, or regularly 1/3 as often as males?

[Italiangreyhound]

The reference to writing to an MP was about saying that we as parents are worried our children may be accessing misogynistic and violent pornography on line and that this may well be having a detrimental affect on children. And when I say children I mean some as young as 11, or even 6, have come into contact with pornography - but I would include in that all children (that is people under the age of 18).

There are two articles here, the second two, which are very interesting. I hope if people are worried they will write to their MP about this and I hope as women we may get organised to speak out about this, and to speak to our children and prepare them for the onslaught....

//www.contributoria.com/reader/4dfe3664fb996911a4d581cdf147e4f0/

[KindDogsTail]

Greypubes
This was Italian's original post.
I am not interested in positive experiences or free will choices, I am interested in young people negatively impacted by porn (or older people who were impacted negatively by its use in the past) or people (women and men) negatively impacted by working or being coerced to work in the porn industry.

[Italiangreyhound]

Thanks *KindDogsTail&.

[PalmerViolet]

I am a feminist

And I'm here to tell you, categorically, that you aren't.

Not even a libfem.

HTH

[LilacSpunkMonkey]

I don't think greypubes will be back to engage anytime soon, seeing as they were a massive troll and have been banned as such now.

Quelle surprise.

[PalmerViolet]

Splendid.

[Italiangreyhound]

I always try and treat everyone normally, my troll-dar never works!