I think it's a bit odd to compare freezing sperm before taking hormones to birth control.
I think it's more akin to freezing sperm/eggs before chemotherapy surely?
One is preventative, frees women from unwanted pregnancy and all the related risks, one is enabling. I'm not saying that I don't support assistance for people who can't have children without it, but that, and birth control, are completely different things.
It’s absolutely crucial that we have someone to talk mother anxieties with. It’s already difficult enough navigating all the feelings around not being able to carry children, and the constant (fucked up) reminder that “real women” have menstrual cycles.
I think this is something that lots of females also have problems with if they discover that they can't have children, I think sensitivity is always needed around this, and I don't think calling it 'fucked up' that women have menstrual cycles and may discuss them when talking about reproduction is particularly sensitive either.
I do think again that it's not quite the same to not be able to carry a child because you're trans (ie. this is no surprise, you've always known this), vs. not be able to carry a child when you're female and you only find out when you try.