Tampon Run. Ipad Game by Feminists.

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My first thread in this section, I'm nervous about fucking it up as I'm not so good at getting what's in my head to make sense.

I came across this game today, on an ios gaming forum I visit a lot. I've downloaded the game but not tried it yet. There is a bit of info on the two young girls who made the game and how they came up with the idea here

I'm still forming my opinion and have to play the game, but I think the girls' attitude is positive and I think the idea and theory itself is good, but, the site on which I found the game is mainly male, and the first few comments on the games thread are in a joking way "bloody good time" and even a mention of anal sex?!, I think there will be more of the same over the next few days. I'm not sure how to word how I feel, but I hope the girls don't get disheartened if the game doesn't achieve what they intended.

Told you I was rubbish at making sense. I will be back to post better, but just wondered what you all thought of it. Do you think the game will change any attitudes/feelings towards periods? Is making it lighthearted a bad thing?

DWH your fil sounds charming. Was bringing his wife out to berate her meant to shame her? "Look at this mess I have fix, dirty woman" would he have shouted everybody out with a telling off it if it was shitty toilet roll?

It might be worth asking why both his wife and dd flushed them in the first place. Like is there access to a bin in their bathroom? If not, why not? My grand had a bin in her bathroom, but it was forbidden to use it, esp for used tampons, she didn't want it getting "dirty" so on the occasions I slept at hers I occasionally flushed, it was the better option on occasions, as she often had lots of visitors and walking through a room with a clump of bloody cotton in my hand would not have gone un noticed. Thank god her system never blocked, esp if she would have acted like your FIL.

Just wanted to add my gran was lovely and loving, she just had a few not so good things passed on to her, she was brought up by men (her dad and brothers) as her mum died when she was a child and I often wonder if some of her ideas are linked to that.

Of course we'll bow to your wisdom DWH, seeing as you've had so many periods yourself.

How many was that again?

DWH, I'm actually baffled as to why you think the story of your mother in law being humiliated is relevant here? Do you really not see how your father in law/your responses contribute to the kind of attitudes that this game is trying to combat?

DWH, I'm actually baffled as to why you think the story of your mother in law being humiliated is relevant here? Do you really not see how your father in law/your responses contribute to the kind of attitudes that this game is trying to combat?

No, it was a "side story" totally unrelated to the shaming of women. he just thought we'd find it, what, funny?

Twenty plus years ago it was my wife who was embarrassed about asking me to buy tampons for her and at the time I was surprised she felt that way.

And again nothing to do with her dad's view of tampons and not at all taboo because teenage boys try and get their "redwings"

I think DWH would like us to hear his various period stories as they are more interesting to him than ours.

What level of lack of self-awareness leads a man to make the first response on a thread about tampons and make a pronouncement on whether it's a feminist issue?

I think it's the "smaller than a Lillet" level, Flora.

I have lots of stories about periods. I've had loads of them and each one has been unique. There have been loads of threads on here and other parts of the forum where women have discussed their periods, how heavy, light, clotty, what types of sanitary protection to wear, what to avoid, how to treat the cramps, how to make the bloating go away, and it's all been fairly fascinating, even for someone who's had a couple of hundred periods of her own.

This is an anonymous forum, it's easy to discuss these things on here, because the chances are you'll never meet any of the women you're discussing them with, you see, even among women, the taboo is strong, but you'd know that wouldn't you DWH, given that you're a woman yourself.... oh no, sorry.

And red wings? Get the fuck over yourself.

I was actually looking up flushing tampons (as I didn't know you weren't supposed to!) no one ever told me. I found tow threads, one MN and one on NM, in both of them there were several people saying if I can't flush them then my husband or children might see me holding the bag with the tampon in.

husband or children Ashamed of their family knowing.

It's crazy sad, isn't it?

Everyone who has done sex ed should know that women bleed every 28 days or so. Men to whom we're married or with whom we live must be aware of our periods. So why the shame?

Dh has his faults and can be set in his ways sometimes but I've never felt uncomfortable about periods around him, or anything to do with my body for that matter. Like a pp, I'd say I'm lucky but saying "I'm lucky I'm not ashamed of my dh or dc knowing I've got my period" sounds.... Silly?

Was it really necessary for several of you to pile into DWH? He is a man and basically said it's a natural thing for which there's nothing to be ashamed of. But oh dear, how dare he comment.

Would you prefer if he'd gone "oh gross"

I see you all assume his fil or whoever it was was "shaming " his wife- as opposed to being angry at the sheer stupidity of flushing tampons?

Not any possibility that the person clearing the blocked drain wanted to show the person who caused the problem what the problem looked like? Groundhog apparently didn't know about this.

Was it really necessary for several of you to pile into DWH? He is a man and basically said it's a natural thing for which there's nothing to be ashamed of. But oh dear, how dare he comment.

He was wrong and mansplainy and when he was told that he was he told us actually we were all wrong. So I'm not super concerned, tbh. As for the FIL did he need to shout at his wife and berate her in english so he DWH could understand? When he had been previously been happy to talk in his own language in front of him?

Hmmmm

Also he didn't just say it was natural he said there was no taboo, so we're all just silly women being embarrassed completely in a vacuum for no reason.

Welcome to MN, LazyJane. Have you had a chance to try any other parts of the site yet? I think it'll put the really quite polite comments to DWH in perspective. AIBU might be a good place to start?

. AIBU might be a good place to start?

Snort

But she likes pink and we're all so mean. SO very mean and scary

Doesn't sound as if some women are doing much to break that taboo are they if they go around saying they would be ashamed for their husbands to know?.

I suppose it's easier to blame men rather than to stop holding such a ridiculous attitude.

*.AIBU might be a good place to start?

Snort

But she likes pink and we're all so mean. SO very mean and scary*

What a predictable response.

Doesn't sound as if some women are doing much to break that taboo are they if they go around saying they would be ashamed for their husbands to know?.I suppose it's easier to blame men rather than to stop holding such a ridiculous attitude.

Is there a point somewhere in there?

No I didn't know about flushing tampons until relatively recently either. So I guess I must be stupid too .

When I was growing up I lived in a house with a specialist sewerage system and we didn't flush tampons there but I thought it was OK in standard water mains areas. In fact they used to advertise how certain sanitary products were flushable.

And DWH was rude and dismissive. It is not 'a natural thing' to disregard other people's experiences when you have no experience yourself to draw on.

It's amazing not really how men's behaviour constantly gets minimised.

How long until we get "man haters" or "feminazi" wheeled out? Mn Feminist Bingo cards at the ready..

Ok, LazyJane, taking you at face value - DWH ignored the "pile on" (and again, I urge you to check the rest of the internet for typical responses to someone who posts in that way on a subject they don't directly experience on a board populated by those that do) and came back without responding to any points to post another such story.

And you're feeling bad for him?

Who is shaming those women? It's not hard to work out and it's not the women themselves That's who you should be blaming.