Why don't men care..?

[AWholeLottaNosy]

Why do men care so much about football ( and other sports), Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, computer games etc but not give a fuck about violence against women? ( which is real and life destroying) Why do they want to be heroes in a virtual life but not the real one? I know this may be a bit controversial but it genuinely puzzles me.,,

Not to me puffin. Once violence is both against the law and is regarded by wider society as unwanted (as compared to internet piracy being illegal but still accepted/desired by society) I would think context of social concern would move to perception of effective law enforcement, justice in sentencing and support for victims. Is that not where it is in the UK for violence?

'Personally responsible'? As in the violence I have personally encountered? Violence against my mother when I was a little kid in which I was also a victim, against the woman who lived next door by her partner, violence against my female relative by hers. Those 3 incidents are all I have personally encountered in over 50 years. I could do nothing as a kid. I would call the police for the neighbour but as for directly aiding her/intervening I had no intention of making myself and family a possible lightning rod for retribution of a mad man. For my female relative the entire extended family tried positive engagement, both with her and her partner. Tried for years and it exhausted everyone, dealing with something akin to Stockholm Syndrome in someone who needs help is a serious mind-f. The upshot of all that intervention is a man who behaves a bit better and simmering mutual contempt all round.

No, not from that pov at all. More that the average man isn't violent, or doesn't believe he is violent and therefore not personally responsible, so feels either that they can't, or aren't able to, or the onus isn't on them to change anything.

Sorry about your mother. And about your other experiences.

Sorry, read that back... didn't mean to sound as snippy as I did. I just can't seem to find the right words to make sense of what I'm trying to say.

I would like to see more men care about EMOTIONAL and PSYCHOLOGICAL violence towards women. I'd like more to acknowledge it and DO something to stop it..... Educating each other about control etc. Helping women understand that they can live independently without a man if they wish rather than remain trapped in abusive situations. Changing the structure if society so women don't feel pressured into settling.

Hang on a minute... Are men ever going to let that happen without great resistance?