I'm not sure that not agreeing with someone's opinion of a portrayal of a character is grounds for making sweeping assumptions about their view of an entire gender... However...
Carmela Soprano is a wonderful example of a honest and non-apologetic portrayal of a deeply flawed woman who constantly balances her pious moral and religious beliefs with her love of wealth, her ego and her vanity. Beautiful and delicately managing or not, this conflict over the years, almost to the point of breakdown, selling part of herself over and over while still being a warm, multi-dimensional, complicated person.
OITNB like it or not is a comedy-drama which takes a character which has the potential to be similarly complex and layered and adds slapstick.
Without including spoilers I say up at the end of season 1 an thought actually we might have something here. Maybe they have been duping us all along (as season 2 breaking bad) and this is about to get real.....then back to season 2 a character that can barely get dressed or have a conversation without making some kind of slapstick funny.
Waste of opportunity and far from ground-breaking. I think the actress is doing a fine job with what she is given. The writing is appalling.