Larry, you're getting it all completely backwards and clearly need to take a bit of a backwards step so that you don't totally lose the run of yourself. I don't know how better to explain it. OK [sigh] let me try.
"A black man mugged me"
"Not all black men are muggers"
"Actually that's kind of a good point because I just looked it up and statistically speaking they're not."
"Oh, but I was making a really racist point there, why won't you enable me?"
"Because actually it turns out I was operating out of prejudice and casually promulgated false data".
You can't have that conversation about male-on-female violence and discrimination, though I wish we could!
Buffy, THE FEMINIST CHURCH OF BILL AND TED IS NOW IN SESSION.