Dusty tomes, yes. Dusty tomes with exciting things to say about gendered language, usually, not so much.
pacific and dusk that is awful! You must have wanted to swear at them to break down the 'nice girl' image.
I was talking about this with a couple of mates the other day, because we're all at the stage of interviewing for jobs. We also ended up talking about how you get given advice on 'confident' body language ('take up all the space in the chair; firm handshake, etc. etc.), but in women, some of this is seen as aggressive, and you're in a funny position in a job interview of trying not to be aggressive, but also to be confident.