I have a particular chap in mind to talk to about this garlicagain. He is always remarkably insightful and wise. I am not sure I'm particularly against promiscuity in and of itself, as long as people are honest and safe about it. I can't abide all the smoke, mirrors and deception that seem to surround a lot of promiscuous people.
For what it's worth I think porn stands to damage men as well as women. Although I appreciate that is not the purpose of this thread, but I do believe only healthy, respectful cross-gender lines debate will help us make thing better.
I don't think I "get" feminism myself quite yet, and perhaps I never will. However there are a great many impossible things that are still nevertheless very worthwhile in at least making the attempt.
I'm not sure if this is off topic, but perhaps it gives a hint to where human sexuality has gone off-piste, and by extension where pornography goes wrong: I am interested in switching career to psychology and psychoanalysis in particular, and as such you have to go through therapy yourself, and my therapist in a session where we were discussing sexuality pointed out something that really floored me. A phrase I always thought was rather beautiful "to make love to someone" I used in context of my relationship, and he challanged me why I said make love to as opposed to make love with?
I did a lot of soul searching, and I could only come to the rather painful conclusion that on some unconscious level I did (and do) objectify women, although if you'd have asked me beforehand I would have sworn blind I did no such thing. This is where I think the vast majority of men currently sit. I did some mental backtracking and identified there was a point before what I suppose the worst of what I suppose you'd call "patriarchal conditioning" set in. At a sleepover when I was around 14-15 talk turned to a particularly beautiful older girl at my school, things got to a rather cringeworthy point where we all went round and talked about the things we would like to do to her, and I got derided when I said I'd just like to go out for a bite to eat to get to know her better (I was often soundly bullied for saying completely left field things that went agains the pack). I'd very much like to get back to that kid, looking back on him I quite like him.
Where this all gets to porn, is I am old enough to have thankfully had a childhood and adolesence free from the internet, but despite that I can still clearly identify parts of my own psyche where I have work to do. I read things like FHM and Loaded in my twenties, and I have picked up bad habits, but thankfully not to the point that it has impeded my ability to enjoy deep relationships or even strong enduring friendships with women. Yet the problem as I see it with things like internet porn, and to a lesser extent the things that affected me is that all of those things are passive experiences, where people fulfill a biological urge but there is no imagination attached to it, which I think is the foundation of any healthy sexuality. I don't think an attack on porn is an unreasonable thing to do at all, but I think the problem we're really talking about was around long before it, so it's only real efficacy at this point is damage control, but there is still more to be done.
I'm really really sorry for that wall of text, and prattling on about myself. However I couldn't really get to the meat of where I'm coming from without delving into some quite personal to me thought processes. I also don't really consider myself an expert on female sexuality, so I deliberately avoided tackling that side of the fence although that is of course just as important. Also for the parts that were off topic.