"I do feel that engaging with the more civilised elements of the rest of society is crucial in terms of getting feminist ideas more widely accepted, and that it is worth thinking about how to put one's ideas across convincingly and persuasively."
I agree, but blanket 'choicey, choicey, choice choice, choice,' or 'nicey, nicey, nice, nice, nice' mantras are being prescribed and faithfully recanted by the masses in such a way that any critique is mischaracterised as attack, to the point that women are so wilfully oblivious they are being blatantly pick-pocketed of their rights while they focus on giving directions to the decoy.
So sometimes being a bit more direct is appropriate.
This doesn't mean I can't put ideas across persuasively or convincingly (in fact I have had a lot of feedback that I can). But on an anonymous internet forum, we are free to speak without damage to any particular cause by association.
Also I am rather
about "engaging with the more civilised elements of the rest of society" I do hope that doesn't mean "inoffensively upholding the status quo and smiling nicely". 'Civilised' has lots of problematic connotations as a choice of word.