FFS, discussing kyriarchy is not stopping you from any activism you want to do.
This is a discussion is it not, where we talk about things?
The problem is that there seems to be a big attachment to Radical Feminism, with the idea that anyone who disagrees is a tool of the patriarchy/not doing feminism properly.
Like any ideology, radical feminism has it's critics and some of them make valid points.
Lack of intersectionality in feminism (and other movements too, if you explored them) is a huge issue. Many people don't have problems that neatly fit into the box "caused by the patriarchy", "caused by racism", they intersect.
For me, I don't think society is in two classes: men at the top and women underneath, I see it as a shifting pyramid. Yes, rich white, straight, able bodied MEN are at the top, but it's important to look at all the levels.
No one is forcing you to believe in Kyriarchy, but for some people it really does describe their lives and struggles.
Finally, everyone is entitled to comment here. I'm really saddened to see to the attempts to "shut up shop" and make this place for rad fems only. There are plenty of rad fem only spaces, this isn't one of them.
And finding someone's argument a bit obtuse, does not equate to them gaslighting you, that is a disgusting accusation.