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This has made me really uneasy I'd like your thoughts

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hathorkicksass · 30/04/2012 08:35

im on my phone so can't link butwas driving and heard an ad on the radio for the Belfast telegraph. I'm hoping some of you can link and if not I will get the Paper later and scan it in.

Can you tell from looking at a woman how many sexual partners she has had. Who has slept with only one man who is saving herself and who has had 15 partners.

What do you think?

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ThatGhastlyWoman · 30/04/2012 08:37

'Kin 'ell.

Unless they're going to do the same for three men, that's pretty dodgy, and prurient. Who cares, and why?

ThatGhastlyWoman · 30/04/2012 08:38

Still looking, but meantime, I found this. Confused

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hathorkicksass · 30/04/2012 10:07

Have the paper in my hand. Front page how many lovers should a woman have life Pg 21 and the headline of the article starts one of these women is a virgin with photos.

Will scan it in later

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hathorkicksass · 30/04/2012 11:36

Bump

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hathorkicksass · 30/04/2012 12:42

I've now read the article and it really worries me.

One of the comments is that women with a large number of sexual partners are often branded easy whereas men feel comfortable boasting about their number of conquests.

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Hassled · 30/04/2012 13:06

It's the use of teh word "should" that sticks in the throat - how many men should a woman have slept with? Who has the right to define what's an appropriate number?

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hathorkicksass · 30/04/2012 13:08

The article is just wrong on so many levels - it's not online that I can see but the text of it is horrible and the interviews are a bit one sided - there's 3 Christians who chose to wait and their interviews are a whole page, and 2 girls who have slept with both men and women (ie no woman who has just slept with men) and their interviews are only 1/4 of the size of the others.

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Nyac · 30/04/2012 14:30

Blech.

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hathorkicksass · 30/04/2012 14:32

It's horrible isn't it?

I'm not over-reacting?

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Nyac · 30/04/2012 14:33

Not at all.

It's scarlet woman stuff. Exposing and shaming the woman who acts sexually.

Also it's supposed to be titillating, because you're supposed to look at those three women and imagine them having sex. Grim.

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hathorkicksass · 30/04/2012 14:34

And the two women who have had more than one sexual partner - one is covered in tattoos and piercings and the other is from abroad and they've both had bi-sexual experiences.

So no stereo-typing there then Hmm

I am very angry and pissed off and am seriously considering emailing or writing to them.

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hathorkicksass · 30/04/2012 14:36

And who the fuck (pardon the pun Wink) are they to decree how many partners I or any other WOMAN (capitals courtesy of the BelTel) should have?

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hathorkicksass · 30/04/2012 14:41

www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=122646647870074&set=a.122592731208799.21733.100003742192034&type=1&theater

Again, hope that works - that's the actual article - the whole left hand page is the virgin/only slept with husbands brigade (all Christians) and the two wee tiny bits on the left are the two girls who have had more experiences.

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CrunchyFrog · 01/05/2012 11:35

FFS.

FFFFFS.

Most people here would see nothing wrong with it though, good ol' Norn Iron and it's Christian-based patriarchy.

I know women who have never orgasmed and see nothing wrong with it, who have no idea how their own bodies work because sex, even within marriage, is so shameful...

It makes me feel ill.

Signed, a filthy little tart. (I've slept with more than 10 men. Sometimes I even enjoyed it.)

blackcurrants · 01/05/2012 12:39

Urrrgh. No, you're not overreacting to be uneasy. I'm uneasy. And fucking raging. What is this, the nineteenth century?

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hathorkicksass · 01/05/2012 13:03

So who would like to help me compose my letter of complaint?

I'm still fuming about it.

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Nyac · 01/05/2012 16:11

"prurient", "sexist", "voyeuristic"

are words you could use.

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hathorkicksass · 01/05/2012 16:13

Thank you.

I can't believe how angry I am about it.

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Nyac · 01/05/2012 16:26

It's just really vile.

They have stupid articles like this in women's magazines, but at least only women will see them. For men to be reading about and judging these women in a newspaper is pretty sick, especially given the sexual double standard.

You could also mention that christianity (of both brands) is responsible for the virgin/whore dichotomy, but that might get you into trouble with everybody in NI.

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hathorkicksass · 01/05/2012 16:27

Well, since I'm already going to hell for not staying married to my ex I'm hardly bothered about that one Grin

And it was two women who wrote it.

And how stereotypical that the tattooed pierced girl is the bi-sexual with the most partners.

I'm spitting bullets.

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CrunchyFrog · 01/05/2012 16:31

Here's a clicky link to the offending piece of bollocks.

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hathorkicksass · 01/05/2012 16:33

Crunchy - Thank you - I couldn't find it online yesterday!

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CrunchyFrog · 01/05/2012 16:41

Oh, I commented. Grin bet you can't guess which one is me...

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hathorkicksass · 01/05/2012 16:43

Oh you can comment online I forgot ....

Grin
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