Male sexual response - netdoctor article making me feel uneasy

[noblegiraffe]

I just read this article about the male sexual response, written by two healthcare professionals on a website written by doctors aimed at providing medical information to the public.

It made me feel uneasy, especially the final sentence - the warning to women. What do you think of it? Am I being irrational?

Actually, any chance someone hacked the site and put that bilge on there "for a larf?" I mean honestly, how would something like that get through on what is supposed to be a legitimate health advice website?

omg!

what a load of shite

it doesnt even make sense, one minute it says they are hell bent on procreative sex the next that they also want/need blow jobs/anal

maybe the authors are mingers who are looking for other reasons why their dps dont want to shag them

I think its meant to be comical

what did you put in the letter LeBOF?

I doubt anyone would take it seriously. (the article not letter)

Oh, it was a perfunctory effort- I'm watching a movie and couldn't be arsed formulating it properly:

I would like to register my disgust at the sexism displayed by the author of this page www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/malesexualresponse.htm

It is almost comedic in its assumptions, shows no research to back up its frankly ridiculous assertions, and ends on a disturbingly sinister note.

Please bear in mind that your readers deserve more than this casual misogyny, and the presentation of unsubstantiated prejudice and opinion as medical fact.

Sincerely,
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What a load of old shite. What evidence are they basing those dubious assumptions on? Very poor and deeply sexist and offensive.

Btw MoreBeta if you take off the last line of your summary of accuracy I'd agree with you.

Anywhere else I'd have thought they were trolling.

That is a very funny spoof site

Oh...

The people who wrote the article are mad as a box of frogs. He used to do a sex problem page for a magazine about 25-30 years ago and even as a child I could recognise it as a load of misogynistic shite. The couple are also married, which makes me

You know, I'm not a hysterical person - I am quite 'devil's advocate' most of the time - but that article made me cry.

What a totally fucking depressing view of men. They're so driven they'll stick it in any of your holes, and more fool you for not understanding this. Jesus.

Oh god it's David Delvin! (I always thought that was a horrific name for a gynaecologist.) He is a friend of an ex's dad and apparently is quite bonkers.
And not much of a fan of men?

Not good at all! I think if I were a man I'd be horrified at being spoken about this way, but as a women I think that I know many many men who aren't running about paying prostitutes for sex, sticking their bits into any available female hole etc.

You can just imagine some dribbly-cocked div sitting his girlfriend down in front of the computer to show her this page when she comlplains about him treating her like a fucktoy.

That is vile and very insulting to men too.

And contradictory.

And bull.

Just to be clear, we don't like this because it's offensive to men right? Good...

men think more about sex than women that is true. Although to be fair, I think that the state of marriage is unnatural, and is designed to benefit men (men designed it after all!) , so I think that it's normal for a husband to want sex with his wife more frequently than she does. It doesn't mean her sex drive is lower than his, it's just means that under normal circumstances would probably move onto the next man but she is stuck. It's biologically sound for women to procreate with more than one man, so as not to put all their evolutionary eggs in one basket.

Ewwww. What a horrible view of the human race.

Isn't it sick that a man (or a teenage boy, who might actually look up such an article and want some advice) could actually conclude he was abnormal for not wanting to treat women like fuck holes? Sick.

(As an aside, I really wonder about men thinking about sex more than women ... men are told to think about sex all the time.)

What about gays ? ...or are they just an urban legend?

Nothing about gays /lesbians , so they can't be having sex then ?

Yes LRD and I wonder if it is true, how much of that is because women's libido is lowered by the constant demands of parenting and boring housework?

In other words, women and men's libidos would prob be about the same, if their workload and status within the relationship, were about the same.

Hmmm sounds like more tripe to me Sakura.

I think it's dangerous to reduce us all the sum of base sexual desire. It implies we have no control over our behaviour and excuses bad behaviour. Human beings have lived in civilised societies for thousand of years. To ignore that social and biological history is is big mistake.

I can tell you for a fact that in my non-scientific, non-blind, non-controlled study of Sexual behaviour in my house there are times when I have a higher sex drive than dh and times when he has a higher sex drive than me. Various factors appear to be influence this varying from biological (ovulation, a large gap), social (usually work stress), chemical (alcohol, adrenaline) and opportunity (no dc around, privacy and enough time). Neither of us behave like animals being civilised, respectful human beings.

That's true ER. And lowered by the fact that an awful lot of what is presented as 'normal sex' (especially in that article) doesn't seem very appealing to women. I mean if you think all sex is ever going to be is giving blowjobs, and being bummed, and maybe some PIV but from someone who assumes your mouth, anus and vagina are all pretty similar ... well, you might not find sex all that exciting or fun to think about!

As well, I'm on another thread atm, and we'd been chatting quite happily I think about sex and nudity (among other things), but with fairly frequent apologies for discussing the topic ... I didn't notice it properly until it was pointed out, but we did! I don't think (I could be wrong) that a group of men would be so likely to qualify a discussion of sex in that way. Because it's seen as normal for them to be all about sex.

Large gap in terms of biology = long period of time since testes last evacuated. Realise it sounded a bit odd I don't have a large gap

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They try to tailor their content for the majority?

Surely they should be tailoring it to what is medically factual?

That was tailored for the majority?? I bloody hope not.

Heh.

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