So where are all these threads that attack feminists? I have seen individual posts but not threads. Some posts come from people who haven't really thought about certain topics
Most people want to discuss feminism, they not be excellent feminists but most people come here believing they are feminist. The problem is being told you aren't a good enough feminist, that's what drives people away
It also depends how you see feminism. Many women believe they are feminist as in they believe men and women should be treated equally, paid equal pay, equal rights etc. I have learnt that many feminists see it as a policital stance, which includes reading relevant books/text. Not everyone knows that, again that causes problems.
Some people, as mentioned above, come at it from a history of abuse, which clouds how they think about things, these people shouldn't be made to feel worse.
I am a feminist - I'm not well read (because I find reading and retaining hard, dyslexic). I believe women and men are biologically and mentally different but are 100% equal and should be treated as such. I am bringing up my sons and daughters as feminists - ie I do quash the myths I know about, household duties are spread equally, I've let them know that gender stereotypes are shite, we have never had gender toys for different genders, just toys,
I am also a rape and severe violence survivor - so find it abhorrent to be told I am a rape apologist
I also am a survivor of severe physical and psycological bullying (by girls) (which led to hospitalisation) and as a result have never formed female friendships. So read some of the way women speak to other women on this board actually makes me cry (and shake)
One of my first forays into a feminist discussion (before this board was made, it was in another section) I was left feeling physically beated by the words directed at me, I struggled putting my thoughts down (again dyslexia) and felt highly attacked for not being able to express myself as I wanted to. Yes, my words weren't as feminist then as they are now but they weren't anti-feminist, just non educated. I received many CATs (as they were then) from feminist and non feminist posters telling me they understood me perfectly and I hadn't been saying what I was accused of. I will tell you that that experience left me shaken. When posters shout others down, they don't think about how the people they are speaking to feel, how they may be affected by past experiences and so on. When I see women treating other women badly, I always try to speak up.
The feminist section can be so very fixed in how posters speak but all people are asking is can feminist posters think a little before having a go.