Found H's porn stash today

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I've already posted on relationships today and have had some good advice but also feel a bit bashed by others telling me I'm a prude and that I'm over-reacting, etc. So anyway, some of the more sympathetic posters pointed me in the direction of this section for some words of wisdom.....

DH knows I don't like porn. I'm no expert on the politics of it all; all I know is that it makes me feel sick, disrespected, unattractive and disgusted. It also makes me sad for my DDs that they will have to confront this shit themselves someday.

I found a stash of mags hidden in his office. One of them is called Barely Legal - that one obviously hit me the hardest.

I am so shocked. It's easy to say but he is truly such a kind, considerate and lovely person to me and always has been, and a lovely dad to our DC. How can that sit alongside what I've just found?

Please someone give me some words of wisdom. I feel terrible and I don't know what to do.

Yes, Belljar, that's what it's all about. Power, being "number one". FFS.

Honestly, what a sickening response.

I've just come across this thread and can I just say how sickening it is that people follow a distressed and upset poster round the boards to effectively TELL HER OFF for her perfectly valid feelings and furthermore that she must be 'understanding'.

She is allowed to be upset, she is allowed to feel however she does and and she does not have to try and understand why men like to use porn!

Belljar I have no idea why you've posted on here. Something tells me you don't generally follow the 'Feminism' threads...

I'm not here to enter into a slanging match so won't be responding to any more posts from you.

Thanks again to everybody else for your support. I'm feeling better today and DH is truly sorry. He is a good man and I think we'll be ok. This has prompted a much wider discussion of the issues surrounding porn which I genuinely think he'd never even thought of before (as is the case with many men, I suspect). I'm signing off now.

Well it really sickens me when we come to a time when a woman has to justify to all and sundry why she doesn't want her husband looking at other naked women.