Visual erotica for women

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Because the discussion on this at Ladyfest was fascinating but didn't go on long enough, I fancy continuing it here.
Soo, iirst off, why aren't there proper erotic magazines (with pictures of naked men in them) for heterosexual women?

The only libido I've ever heard a man suffer from is guilt when they're fucking someone else.....I may be projecting though!

narcissism

[ that's a note, I'm watching Jack's funeral]

it's all about meeeeee

I don't epilate though

Sorry couldn't help it

Where did you get that teddy???!!!

this one ?

I nicked it from John Lewis

heh heh heh

Though that would attract your attention.

it makes sense..if you can't fancy yourself...why would anyone else ?

See I don't get this "turning yourself on" business. I don't understand what you all mean.

I can see that if you feel self-confident and happy you are more likely to enjoy your sex life, as having body hang-ups is not conducive to cheerful and abandoned sex.

As for what arouses, the idea that it is "yourself" seems a bit odd. Women who read erotic books and buy rabbits and watch that bloke in a wet t-shirt coming out of the pond aren't getting turned on by themselves, they're getting turned on by external stimuli and by their imaginations.

The last few comments are obviously true, but i would say not for everyone, as i for one haven't a clue what you're on about!

I can't explain it, ISNT

it's a gut-level thing

like I say, I really hadn't thought of sexual arousal in this way, until a couple of weeks ago

we need the original user of this idea, don't we ?

because it jolted me when she made it

I went through a few dry years, sex-wise

but I felt shit about myself, and forgot I was a sexual being, and a bloody hot one, thank you

these days, I get it

Is it to so with women giving themselves permission to feel sexy/sexual/be sexual?

That many women don't give themselves permission to feel / be sexual unless they have gone through some kind of grooming ritual/rigmarole? Something like that?

no, not permission

during my dry spell, I tried to give myself permission...it didn't work because I was not interested, at all

I dunno

Hmmmmmmm

No idea

I think it's both external and internal..its about how you feel about yourself and your sexuality but also how you feel about your partner..about him or what he does turn you on or out...

Its about allowing yourself to embrace and enjoy being pleasured..

So saying balls to repression? Throwing your knickers in the air and fucking with gay abandon, irrespective of wobbly bits. Maybe?

Yep!!!..I mean DH/DP likes those wobbly bits doesn't he?...thinks your the sexiest thing on the planet why disappoint?..I have spoken to many men about what they desire and like in a woman and one of those things is confidence and they love our power we just don't understand it sometimes...

Of course that makes sense, I'm not sure that's what AF is talking about though...

do you want to know more about my dry spell ?

it don't make nice reading

or why I find myself sexy, in the eyes of my husband ?

because he makes me feel that way, because he can't get enough of me, because I trust him

it ain't explainable, any more so than why it deserted us when the kids were small

But thats the point..if you take on board what *he feels about you it gives you a totally different perspective..you are looking at your faults...your failings ..your wobbly bits...he's looking at your sexiness,your power ,your strength its about perception...